Very strong sexual jealousy

[YellowTaxi]

I have a male best friend, and I am a female. We are very good friends, best friends actually.

I feel thoroughly possessive over him. I dislike the thought of him socialising with other girls. I hate myself for it but I can't help it. It's a huge fault that I recognise and I really want to fix it!

The thought of him having sex in the future with girls and having relationships etc makes me feel really sick. I lie awake and worry about it, and nothing has ever even happened between him and any other girl.

It's not even that I'm sexually attracted to him, I'm just deeply obsessed by him. I always want to know where he is, and what he's doing, and whenever he goes out of the country I always have images in my head of him getting with girls and it kills me. It really makes me ill.

I have to get out of this awful cycle. I'm being a stupid obsessive teenager. Can anyone offer any advice?

[ummmm]

Yea...get a boyfriend.

[trt]

Have you reached your 14th birthday yet, yellow?

[Velvetee]

Are you sure she's 14 TRT? I mean she uses punctuation, paragraphs and capital "I's" when referring to herself. More than most of the older less literate people on here.

[sqad617]

What you are describing is normal female behaviour, which just varies in intensity from female to female.

[daffy654]

I have to agree with Velvetee here,this poster does not 'sound' like a teenager at all! The style of writing is much more mature than would be expected from a teen.

[4getmenot]

She says she is a teenager. So is this the bloke who's parents you were meeting

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Q uestion761640.html

You are in love with him simple as. How did the meeting go or hasnt it happened yet?

[SizzleSquid]

What ridiculous answers you have got-unsual really

Maybe it is that this is the only person in your life that you can really trust and get on with-so when you think about him with other people-him giving them attention instead of you-and sex being the ultimate attention-it drives you crazy.
Either you are in love with him-or its the above. If it is love-then you really need to get this off your chest and tell him-yes it may rock your relationship if he's not interested-or it might not-but its better than living like this.
you say that you're not sexually attracted to him-but your deeply obsessed, amybe your replacing something in your life with him-did u have a good relationship with your parents? have u any brothers or sisters? I have heard of this with siblings too.
If you dont fancy him-or dont want to be with him-then you have to learn to let him go-hes a good friend so he wont be going anywhere, however if he cottons onto the fact that you feel like this-and he will eventually, he'll start to notice your behaviour-no matter how subtle, you risk alienating him. Let him see girls-why should he be on his own? make a move if you wish-but if you dont-let him have his life, and you should b looking out 4 yours more
see your other friends-go out and do things, have fun, study, work -whatever-and meet people.

[simonruss]

sounds like you need therapy

[joggerjayne]

Oh no ... a bunny boiler !!

Do NOT let Yellow Taxi anywhere near a copy of Fatal Attraction !!!!!!!