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[dr pop]

What is the latest anybody has first felt the baby. Wife and I are both eternal worriers and first child is now 20 weeks in and has given no little signs. Twenty week scan is bizarrely still a week away and we are just seeking reassurance!

[upsydaisy]

Hi Dr pop - is thisyour first child? Your wife may not realise that she is experiencing movements if this is the case. It can be likened to when you go quickly down a hill in a car and your tummy 'goes' - but just lower down - if you see what I mean?? Its not unusual to not feel anything until 22 wks - but if you are worried then call your midwife who will put your minds at rest. Many congratulations to you both!

[ettelloc]

Hi Dr pop, Im 22 weeks and didnt feel the baby move until the day before I was 20 weeks. It was minimal at first but now its constant on quite strong I can see my stomach moving. Get your wife to lie down still for a while and see if she feels anything. Im sure everything will be fine as Upsydaisy said it can be as last as 22-23 weeks.

[aggiela]

HI Pop

I worried through my entire pregnancy. I went to hospital at one point cause i couldn't feel the baby and even when I could hear her "swishing" on the monitor I still couldn't feel her cause she was turned towards my back. It may be your wife simply doesn't realise whats shes feeling. This may seem odd but, I didn't realise the funny feelings I was having at the end were labour pains till a midwife told me what they were !
Its all new and worrysom, just try to enjoy

[dr pop]

upsdaisy - yes this is our first and for that reason I think we are a bit more apprehensive. Just hoping scan goes well next Friday.
Etteloc - hopefully baby will be a late starter. Congrats and best wishes to you
aggiela - we will also probably worry all the way through but will try to enjoy at same time
Thanks to you all for taking the time to reply

[Velvetee]

I was like you Aggie and also went to the hospital because I hadn't had any movement for a whole day, this was soon after my mother died in March and I was convinced the stress had affected the baby, fortunately all was well.

I didn't feel any obvious movements until about 22 weeks Pop and now he just moves all day. It's really amusing, if I put my hand on my stomach, he'll kick or push it, but if my partner does it immediately after me, he goes quiet. I suppose he can distinguish between the two of us already.

It is a worrying time and even now at 39 weeks, I still worry if I feel nothing for a couple of hours. Try to relax and enjoy it all.