how do i end a relationship

[iamkk]

my question is i dont trust my boyfriend, and i want to end it. and everytime i try he talks me out of it. too many questionable things have happened and i just dont see any real future. and i gave up asking questions because all i ever get are lies. there are so many other issues and i feel like an ass allowing it to go on for so long.

[woofgang]

umm you tell him its over, don't go out with him, refuse to see him, don't answer his calls, texts, emails or letters.

[shivvy]

I think he is the ass and not you.  It does sound as if you have let him walk over you for a bit too long but so what? - you are ready to change things now - so go for it.  Nobody deserves to be treated badly and the only person who can control how your life turns out is you.  Do what woofgang says and don't give him the opportunity to talk you out of it.  Make your decision, believe that it is final and stick to it - it is therefore not up for discussion as far as you are concerned when you tell him.  I hope that you will be suprised at how much more happy and liberated you will feel without him hanging around and bringing you down.  Let me know how it goes.

[Solarjunkie]

Have the "I'm leaving you, I've made up my mind" discussion with another person there. As neutral as possible, to ensure fair play. It will give you confidence, and this person will not have the history you have and so should be able to view the situation with clear eyes. Good luck.

[iamkk]

thank you all for your help. i did tell him it is over, and it all went pretty well. he told me i am crazy for thinking the things i do, and that he couldnt live like that. so i went along with it and am glad it is just over. no more lies, from him, or to myself. thank you all, and thank you to shivvy.

[flaming]

Good for you!  I hope you soon find someone or something else fabulous!  It's a wide world out there.

[cre]

tell him you've met a woman/or have met another man and are geting married and send him an invitation - dated next year. Failing that just do everything that annoys him.

[shivvy]

Way to go iamkk!!

Pleased it worked out for you.