I don't care much to be honest Leg, there's clearly some kind of history between yous (outside of and before AB) given the attitudes expressed on her by these people you knew before it is clear (and wise) that you ;eft.
FTR
Scarecrow1 is clearly a fake of some sort (dunno who) but you did mention that his wife was playing away which does now mean you've lost moral imperative in the Dot/Knobby contatend.
You can't site provocation, because that would mean you agree with the perogative.