Hi Velvetee, I had a catheter too but dn't remeber having any pain after it, so it would be best to get that checked out. I bled for about 9 weeks after having my daughter, but it never smelled, so it would be worth going to the doctors. Hope you get all of this sorted out quickly.
How is the little man? I saw your thread in family, you are right to seek advice from other parents, HV's can be useless and even the good ones aren't there when you need them! Trust your instincts, I'm sure you are doing a great job!! x