A really silly problem really...

[evedawn]

I feel guilty for cancelling anight out on the town with a good friend.

I had said to her that I was up for going out Friday, (planned two weeks ag). she is fairly recently divorced and is trying to pick up the pieces. Anyway...I "was" keen but now I'm not (combination of factors have left me thinking by the time friday comes around I will need some total peace and quiet in with the husband not a night on the town).

I txtd to tell her I'm not keen now and...I feel so guilty for letting her down :-( Cos she was soooo looking forward to it. (she doesn't have a huge social circle)

Am i a bad friend? I am in my thirties for goodness sake so things like this shouldn't have me worrying should they?

[China Doll]

Yay! Go you... Karma tends to return the favour.

[evedawn]

No logic when I said I'd go two weeks ago I did NOT know what this week would be like . . .

But - to cut a long story short I have decided I will now go anyway...cos like and I am sure I will have a good time.

Of further note is that I HAVE been spending some time with her and we were also supposed to go out LAST week Friday, (she cancelled at last mo - which was fair enough - her emotions are up and down understandibly and she didn't feel up to going out.)

[evedawn]

Soz - posted reply to logic without realising others (incl logic) had alread replied....

[pips1]

I'm sure you won't regret it - I've often had to drag myself out on a Friday night when I am shattered, but I'm always fine once I'm out there and glad to have made the effort! Plus, think of the lie in Saturday morning - bliss!!

[pips1]

Ah, but I'm old ThePlayer, lol.

[evedawn]

well an update to my Q of wednesday...I DID go out Fri and the friend was so happy. She confessed to me that when she tought I wans't going she had felt on the verge of tears. How bad did I feel then!!! So thanks all of you for your advice and I am so glad I did go - to be honest it wasn't one of the very best party nights i've ever had but it was ok nonetheless and....my friend was so happy - just to see a smile on her face was worth everyminute.!!!!


PS - I've posted another (unrelated Q) about blurry font on "how it works" ....cos this screen is gonna give me a migraine...!

[sara3]

I'm pleased you went, evedawn. I'm divorced and it's surprising how "dumped" you feel by friends who are part of a couple. you just don't fit in with the couples, and it's good to have supportive friends.

don't feel you have to jump every time she asks, but she will need her friends :o)

[cazzz1975]

Im glad you went, you can feel very alone when eveyone you know is part of a couple but you have to start again.

I think an occasional night on the tiles will do wonders for her self confidence!

you are a good friend!