Female Friend Just Found Out Her Boyfriend Cheated On Her

[chris1987uk]

ok this is confusing, my best female friend (who for a long time iv had feelings for) has just found out that her boyfriend had cheated on her and slept with another girl, she is totally devistated, and i do feel sorry for her, but in a selfish way I really now want to tell her how i feel about her and i love her to bits. There has been a few instances where we have shared a few snogs and she also text me a few weeks ago saying she had a dream that me and her were together, the last time we shared a passionate kiss was only a week before she found out about her boyfriend, I have been told she likes me aswell but how do i approach it and why would she text saying she dreampt we were a couple and that she liked it??

[Sqad]

Are you a female?

[bednobs]

sounds like she deserves to be cheated on if shes been sharing passionate snogs with someone else!

[chris1987uk]

I am Male

[weeal]

haha what a mess, its like a soap, you deserve one another

[sara3]

yeah, go for it.. and when you think everything is okay she'll probably be snogging one of your mates.

[Sqad]

Right, then get in there mate..........all's fair in love and war.....invite her to accompany you to church this evening.....that should do the trick.

[sara3]

Sqad, how lovely, lol!!

[chris1987uk]

thanks for the lovely sarcastic answers i truelly like this girl always have, ok i never explained all in this but theres things that have happened before, and we have a really close friendship alot of the things between us happened before she got with her now ex boyfriend

[gossipgirl]

i dont think that now would be the best time to tell her head is i the wrong place, you may end up being a rebound fling and if you feel the way you do about her then its gonna hurt big time if she doesnt feel the same. Just e there for her a s friend only for now and see how it goes in the future, time will tell if she feels the same way or not.
Without being to judgemental i would say be careful, if she has cheated on her boyfriend with you then she cant be too loyal a person can she? just a thought!

[andy-hughes]

I'm with gossipgirl on this.

Making move now is fraught with complications - she is usnure of how she feels, and may be looking for comfort and confuse her feelings with attraction.

Be there as a friend, and wait a while and see how things pan out. If she returns to her boyfriend, she was not coming to you anyway, if not, there is plenty of time, so be patient. If she is interested, she will let you know in good time.

I know it's hard to see someone you care for suffering, but be sure not to make it worse, even unintentionally.

[sn�gs]

''thanks for the lovely sarcastic answers''

What did you expect? You say your friend is 'devastated' and probably vulnerable right now... and you want to make things more complicated when at the moment that's the last thing she needs...

''i do feel sorry for her, but in a selfish way''

^ That says it all really...

[caththecrazy]

Back right off or you could lose her friendship too.

Agree with snags can't see how she is devastated if she's been snogging you unles she's devastated that her boyfriend wants someone more than he wants her.

[NoK]

it's simple just text her the word ..............'ugga'