Ex problem - my ex has been pretty damn horrible to me in the past and I think I've finally got to the point where I just don't want him in my life. Trouble is he has phoned me and I can't just tell him to f off on the phone - and I can't be angry but at

[karma22]

[sara3]

I see I'm not the only one who can only post a question title!

[karma22]

god this is so damn confusing but I kind of like the new look and the avatars etc.

so I'm not alone then.....

anyway what I was trying to say is I have a problem with my ex - finally got to the stage where I don't want someone who can be so horrible at times to me in my life. Trouble is he phones me up and I can't get angry at him or say f off I just end up speaking normally to him but am a bit short with him too. I don't know what is the best thing to do to deal with him. His sister lives next door to my dad and so I always bump into him when I go to my dads and he is at his sisters and I'm not the sort of person who can just blank someone. Plus I'm worried now that my dad is less wary of him (he hated me going out with him as he thought he was a bastard and it turns out he was but I haven't told my dad half the horrible things he has said to me etc.) now I'm worried just as I'm realising that my dad was right about him my dad is coming around to him thinking he might have judged him wrong.

If I tell my dad he was right and he was a bit of a bastard then that might cause something to kick off in him and he might approach my ex. I don't want any violence etc. on my hands.

[lil75]

You dont have to tell ur dad the ins and outs, just tell him youv fallen out of love, at the end of the day, this is YOUR life and you should live it how you want without worrying about anyone else including his sister or your fella, if you end it and you see them...so what! Hold ur head high say hello and bugger off into ur dads, end of

[ummmm]

FFS Karma...not this again. Just don't answer your phone to him. He will get the message then. If he was that bad to you why would you want to talk to him? If you can't blank him face to face the just say hello and keep walking.

But you won't listen because you never do.

[karma22]

I do listen. Thats how I got to this stage. This is another ex question I know but its a slightly different ex question :)

[cazzz1975]

change your number, or have him blocked. stop being a doormat! ignore his calls

[Naomicorlett]

Oh Karma . I have been with you from the beginning of the year on this one and I think you know that you have got to stop being the nice guy in this . He is not good for you and you need to cut him off and out of your life. Every time you respond you empower him. small smile if you meet him and don't answer his calls. Rise above it Angel.

[tamborine]

take another male friend when you visit home, so the bf will see you have another partner (plenty of other men about). Ex will get message & leave you alone......simple :p

[karma22]

Thanks huns!

Told my dad I didn't think it was wise for him to get too friendly with my ex as he was right about him!

Am also keeping my distance and having as little to do with ex as possible x