is it me or his ex Jehovah ways?

[baggysenior]

this is a question that applies to both the religious and relationship section.
I'll try and keep it short (see the full story under body and soul relationships) Basically my ex chased me for a long time to get me to commit to our relationship, the tables slowly turned and i ended up chasing him in the end and always feeling i was in the wrong. My friend commented recently that he had 'stole my personality' and that he was manipulating me. The evening our relationship ended he had me basically begging him to come and see me. i concluded the evening, tired of trying to get him to speak to me, with the statement 'i will no longer chase you baby' sent via text. i havent heard from him since (2 weeks today) but i've also restrained from contacting him (i have the tiniest bit of self respect left) my question to you guys is although hes an EX Jehovah, is my friend right and has he been slowly manipulating me and is waiting for me to contact him? Can an Ex Jehovah ever change their brain washing ways? (no disrespect intended to any Jehovah's out there) up until our final text we had our problems but were both very affectionate and loving towards each other, so i don't think he had stopped having feelings for me) on paper i have far more going for me, i have a job, pay my taxes, am a full time single parent who holds down a home and car and am told to be attractive and have savings. He has been dodging taxes, although recently came clean....so is now on the dole, has no money and has just been forced to quit his lovely rented property because his 15 yr old daughter wants to live with him. He is nearly ten years my senior and smokes weed regularly yet hes made me feel i need to beg him and im not worthy of him!!!!!!!!!

[daymurphy]

Personally I think the Ex Jehova bit is irrelevent tbh.
It simply sounds like he's the controlling type and(being honest again) it sounds like you are better off without all that crap!
I know a few JW's and some are really good, nice people, although some (my mother-in-law for instance) are a total nightmare... but the same could be said of any group of people - religious or not.

In short... you don't need him!

[Ankou]

because of your own issues - being on medication for anxiety - and because of the trail of posts you have made on this/similar issue, i think this relationship is doing you a lot more harm than good.

your post in august 'My head is a mess. I'm a shadow of my former self.' seems to still be the case.

i don;t mean to sound crass, but you really haven't listened to all the advice given you over several months. i think you ned to end it and move on, and get yoursef better, maybe even try reparations with yor own child ?

[baggysenior]

yes you're right ankou. i should have listened.

[Ankou]

well its never too late to start