How do I rebuild a broken relationship?

[Matheous]

Just to cut to the chase- my first marriage ended with my leaving for various reasons....I wasn't squeaky clean but my ex-wife and I bear no malice with each other. My three 'children' are grown and seem to blame all on me. How can I begin to rebuild bridges with them- ? I miss them so much and still love them dearly. I'm 64yrs old. I am remarried.

[Dunloptyre]

not sure how long you have been divorced,i imagine its been a long time, their grown now sit down as adults and start talking,really you shouldn't have left it so long to start to building bridges .good luck.

[Matheous]

I was divorced in 1993 and only broke contact with my youngest daughter earlier this year. I have no home addresses for any of my children. Only one email address. The other email of my only son blocked me after I sent only about three emails. - I have tried to forget- but it is so difficult to do that when you worked hard to care for them. Parents never think that they would ever become enemies of their own flesh & blood. You only have your kids on 'loan' apparently not for life. I wasn't the best parent and certainly not the worst. I would love to sit around a table and eat once again with Ruby,Paul & Luisa like we used to every day....-Should I just cut this thread and get on with my life without them?

[ummmm]

Can't you talk to their mother?

I wouldn't give up...for your sake as well as theirs. If anything happened to any one of you you could spend the rest of your life with guilt and regret. And so could they.

[sara3]

I think ummmm is right. you need to get some help from your ex. if you get on okay with her, surely you can work together to try to sort out this situation.

best of luck x

[Matheous]

Thanks ummmm & sara3....I have thought that speaking to my 'ex' IS the only possibility for a resolution. - I will post here if any progress is made....- Thanks again.

[ummmm]

You're welcome...good luck x