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The other week I discovered that my recently widowed father is looking at internet porn sites. I've checked again, and it isn't an accident. So far as I can tell, these are all 'adult' sites and do not involve children but I'm concerned that he may have a problem. He is 86. I find it quite disturbing and distasteful but am not sure quite how to deal. Any ideas?
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Perhaps the answer lies in an open discussion, as two adults. Personally I think Beagle is right to be concerned esp as Pa had a mailbox isse, which may be resulting from spam occurring as a result of visiting 'dodgy' sites. He may enjoy the hem-hem 'artistic nude' but possibly doesn't understand how scammers and con artists who can get to him online as a result....
09:24 Sat 09th Jan 2010
Perhaps the answer lies in an open discussion, as two adults. Personally I think Beagle is right to be concerned esp as Pa had a mailbox isse, which may be resulting from spam occurring as a result of visiting 'dodgy' sites. He may enjoy the hem-hem 'artistic nude' but possibly doesn't understand how scammers and con artists who can get to him online as a result. But breaching this needs an understanding of Pa's perspective - was getting an eyeful considered sinful / shameful in his upbringing? And how easily do you discuss intimate matters with Pa? I agree with others who say it's nobody's business but his own, absolutely, right down to him introducing a new 18year-old Romanian stepmum. However, take the IT out of the equation - would Beagle be right to be concerned if Pa was inviting ladies of negotiable virtue into his house? We can all argue that selling sex is a commodity like any other, but we all also know how much criminality attaches itelf to the trade. And here we have an old gent who is presumably not getting any stronger, may not fully understand the risk, is completely entitled to a satisfying sex life, but may need some gentle support from family to protect him if not 'from his own worst self' then from the predators out there.
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Thanks all for your answers. Mosaic I think you have caught what I was trying to say re concern. Its easy to snigger and you can call me what you like, but he is vulnerable, and I care about him. Is that so bad? For the time being, I'm going to leave it be. If it gets to be a problem socially or financially, then we'll have an adult discussion about it.
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Your farther is 86 and still has the Normal desires of a Normal healthy male . as he has lost his partner he is seeking to satisfy this with porn . nothing wrong with that .
if he was 46 would you still think this is wrong ? age " above the legal limit" does not make any differance what so ever , leave him alone and say nothing .
if anything you " snooping " on his actions is invasive and to be totaly honest makes me wonder as to Your reasons for doing so . it also shows your farthers lack of privacy.
i will not even go into your sick mensioning of " child porn " .
leave this poor man some privacy and respect.
if he was 46 would you still think this is wrong ? age " above the legal limit" does not make any differance what so ever , leave him alone and say nothing .
if anything you " snooping " on his actions is invasive and to be totaly honest makes me wonder as to Your reasons for doing so . it also shows your farthers lack of privacy.
i will not even go into your sick mensioning of " child porn " .
leave this poor man some privacy and respect.