trying to make things work

[sacha.86]

me and my boyfriend of 3+ years have been trying hard the last month or so to make things work. We have a little boy who is 1 and my boyfriend is a few years younger and quite imature tho showing potential. He cheated on me a few months ago but i have decided to give him 1 chance. He dragged things out for ages giving me more and more of the story as time went on. I only got more out of him bcoz i new he was lying and forced the truth out of him. I no there is more to it but he refuses to talk about it now and just gets angry saying im presuring him. Ive told him i will leave him alone but i no hes lying and expect him to b able to tel me off his own back. Every now and again i get fed up of waiting esspecially with xmas coming. Im not sure he will ever tel me unles i pressure him 2. Does any 1 have any advice? Thanks

[snags]

Why the hell should you wait? By not telling you and saying you're pressuring him, he's twisted it so you now feel guilty. Show's a total lack of respect...

[sacha.86]

thanks your right i have said that myself but he will either get angry and storm out (like a child) or giv me the silent treatment

[sacha.86]

i decided to give him 1 chance bcoz as soon as i found out he cheated on me i went on a website which claimed alot of people only cheat once

[snags]

Don't make such an important decision based on something you've read on the web... make it based on how you feel and what you want in the future...

[sacha.86]

thnks for your help i no u r both right but it is important to me to make things work i will give up 1 day but i want 2 b able to say i tryed my hardest as silly as that might sound to some

[snags]

''i want 2 b able to say i tryed my hardest''

Can't argue with that... good luck :-)

[sacha.86]

o how the tables turn lol. I told him- u no, i no your lying and if u have any respect 4 me when u get home u will tell me the truth. He then saw me messaging u lot on my phone and wanted to no what i was doing. I said nothing, so he started with- what r u hiding. Ive told him i will tell him tomorow wen hes told me what hes hiding and now i am sleeping downstairs. Is this just game play or standing up for myself

[snags]

''Is this just game play or standing up for myself''

I'd call it game playing... really he should tell you regardless imo... don't stoop to his level...

[sacha.86]

thats my biggest problem in relationships, im always worryed about upsetting the other person or been seen to b the 1 doing wrong and as a consquence get walked over. Would like help to b stronger and to b mor confident that what im doing is good for every1 otherwise its always going to b like this no matter who i get with

[sacha.86]

do i have to just face it that hes not the 1 for me?

[sacha.86]

im just going to c what happens wen he gets home tomorrow becoz if he does tell me all i think he will b able to rise to his place without anything holding him bak.

[snags]

Only you can decide that...

[ummmm]

Do you love him?

What good points does he have?

[sacha.86]

yh ive never loved any1 like i love him. Not many when were not getting on but wen things are good he has loads he helped me alot get where i am 2day he helps me with the house, with the cooking, with are baby and listens and trys to do the right thing. but hes not very good with giving me emotional support which is all i need him 4 really, thats what were trying to deal with at the moment and hes finding it difficult bcoz hes 1 of them people who keeps everything close 2 his chest and finds it hard to talk.

[sacha.86]

think the only reason i stick with him n stick at it is bcoz i can see my self at that age in him so much

[ash3raw]

Im a date doctor ask me thnks