Being single

[Scarlett]

Does anyone apart from me actually enjoy being single? I love not having to answer to anyone, but having ace fun with my friends. I don't miss being in a relationship at all. My female friends flip out the moment they are single and go out every night on the prowl until they find a new man- regardless of suitability. It's as if they simply can't bear to be single. What about you?

[China Doll]

I'm just seeing someone again after being single for five years. Before the previous relationship I had I'd been single four years. Being single has never bothered me but I'm also happy being in a relationship (or at least the current one). I think it's a state of mind, if you're happy enough in yourself anyway then it doesn't really matter if you're single or not. I never actively looked for a relationship really when I was single, always seemed like too much hard work!

That said, it is nice to get man hugs.... Or at least man hugs from someone who isn't one of my best male mates.

[MarkRae]

I've also never actively looked for relationships - they've always just seemed to come along. Some people can't function independently, others can, others can't function anything other than independently. I'm sort of in the middle group, I think. I like all the good things about relationships, but don't really mind being on my own.

E.g., a mate just texted me asking if I fancied seeing a band tonight - didn't even need to think about it...

[str]

I split from my ex-husband of 18 years a few years ago and was devastated. But I remembered my sister telling me many years ago when her husband had an affair (again) and she finally kicked him out that although it was the hardest time in her life (she had a two year old) she said it was also the most formative, and she would tell any woman going through it that they would be a better person for it. Well I was very happily married at the time and thought she was a nutter! But not now - although now I am seeing someone, I live on my own and see no reason to change things because I absolutely LOVE IT. I found out so much about myself - I've refurbished my new flat up to showroom standard and found that I can absolutely do anything I want to. I don't answer to anyone, come and go as I please (within reason for work, my cat etc - who incidentally menas more to me than any husband! sad but true...) I spend what I want on what I want. if I want a lie-in I have it, if I want toast at 3am I have it, if I want a bath with wine, candles and a bit of muzak - guess what - I have it!!!... the list is endless. Don't get me wrong, I love having my boyfriend over, but he knows the scenario, no secrets there, and it works for us. Life is good once more.

[joko]

i think i like both equally...i was single for many years...through choice...i had plenty of offers in that time but none really appealed to me...i was perfectly happy...as has been mentioned...freedom, no one to answer to or worry about or consider...i was out a few nights a week in the pub or club or whatever with my mates...all good fun...however after a good few years i started to yearn for someone to just cuddle, and sit about watching tv with...i now have someone and im happy with this too...i do sometimes miss my single life, but not enough to spilt with him...

i agree though people do judge and assume you are miserable...

i woudl say to people, dont pity single people, its nothing to feel down about

[ummmm]

I use to love being single. Many relationships have an element of pressure. Not my current one though.