Best Age Gap Between Siblings

[Otrere]

What's the best age gap between siblings for least rivalry - or is there no such thing? Do they argue more the closer they are together or the bigger the age gap? Are they closer being closer in ages?

Am thinking of having second child you see but daughter will already be 3 in November and wonder if we should start trying within the immediate future or hang on?

[OBonio]

My brother and sister are only a year apart and they still fight like little kids (they're in their 30s now). Me being 4 years younger, on the other hand, get on with both of them.

[pamnez]

My grandaughter was 2yrs and 10 months when her brother was born.  Now she is 6 and he is 3 and she absolutely adores him. She is very protective of him and hates him being told off.  But saying that, they still fight like cat and dog. 

[georgit79]

I am the eldest of 4. There's 3 years between me and brother number 1, and we love each other to bits. Only 18 months separate brothers number 1 and 2, but they have always been absolutely inseparable, and there's another 2 and a half years between brother number 2 and my sister. We all get on really well with each other, and the only sticky point was when my brothers were in their early teens- I couldn't stand either of them then! Think that's par for the course though.

So, I haven't really answered the question- except, I don't think it really matters! I'd go for it now if I were you, then there's time for more in the future!

[libertie]

Don't think that there is an ideal age gap, there's less than 2 years between my sons and sometimes they played happily together and sometimes they tried to kill each other!  Now they get on fine.  One thing though, one of my closest friends had a new baby around the same time that her daughter started school for the first time, she did'nt exactly plan it that way, but when it happened she thought it would give her more time on her own with the new baby, unfortunately her oldest child felt that she was being pushed out and a few difficult months followed!

[kick3m0n]

it depends on the kids and your family, there is just no such thing as the perfect age gap.  My brother and I are 17mnths apart, and although we did fight a bit as kids, we got on better and better as we grew up.   On the other hand, my hubby and his brother are 5 years apart, but have gotten on brilliantly with each other from the get go.  

[Mistopheles]

My brother and I are 4 years apart (I'm older). We fought terribly, but were still emotionally close, and in fact still are.

I've also got a half sister who is.. wait for it... 25 years younger. Adorable, but since my dad got divorced (again) I haven't been able to see her.

[Lolliemma]

Being the oldest of 7 im 28 sister 27 then brothers of 23, 20, 17, 15 and 10 I can say theres no best age gap we all fight and argue but we also all look out for each other aswell its part of being in a family. Me and my sister have been the worst for arguing though over boys clothes bedroom space etc etc but we now are grown up have our own families and get on like best mates, the boys still argue but they also all  play sports together and hang out together so i dont think theres a winning age gap

[smudge]

There are 3 years difference between our two daughters.

They adored each other as little children & used to hold hands. Then when the youngest went through her rebellious teen years, there were a few blips. They are now in their 30's with families of their own & are the best of friends.

We've always reminded them that they only have each other & hope that they will always try to overcome any problems they may face between them in the future. They've assured us they will always stick together.

[pixi]

My daughters 19 my sons 13 and until recently always fought like cat and dogs, if she didn't start on him, he would wind her up.  Some days it was crazy.  It is only since the birth of my daughters baby that it has mainly stopped.  They still wind each other verbally but fortunately dont come to blows anymore.

[ludwig]

I have a 10 and a 6 year old. They fight and play about 50/50. The thing is they both love each other - even when they're fighting they still love each other. I don't think there's any ideal age difference.

[crop]

Yes the best age gap is 3 or 4 years. I say go for another one.