Should he tell his solicitor?

[missindependent]

Hi there,

A colleague of mine is separated from his wife and has been for approx 2 1/2 years. Not many people know and he has asked me some advice, which I dont really know the answers too, hence my post!

He still lives at the family home with his wife and as far as I know pays all of the mortgage and household bills. No one apart from myself and a few other colleagues know he's seeing someone else (which I've been told started well after their marriage came to an end, albeit they arn't yet divorced).

Divorces proceedings have begun but are in the early stages. He's looking for an amicable separation and devorce and wants to provide his wife with a fair settlement and also continue to contribute to the upbringing of their two girls. He has recently met someone else who he really likes and wants to move forward with. Should he speak to his solicitor about this new relationship and be 100% honest? And if so, is his solicitor then obliged to confirm adultery if questioned by his wife's solicitor?

Thanks to everyone in advance for your advice and assistance.

Milly

[sara3]

the wife will find out about the other woman via the children, so why not just be honest for once?

[missindependent]

I dont know if he's told the children yet

[fredpuli47]

.He should tell his solicitor. It may be material in assessing the future financial needs of the parties.That sounds cynical but it's a consideration, not perhaps one of any particular importance in this case and these circumstances, but it can be material in some cases.What the solicitor does with the information is a matter for the solicitor's professional judgment in the particular case but he or she needs to know;The solicitor will not thank him for keeping the solicitor 'in the dark' if the fact of it emerges and the other side tries to make an issue of it, however unimportant it turns out to be..