Threats of my ex

[ollywilli]

My ex left me in september 2007, on the claims for domestic violence, we went through the courts regarding contact for my child, since then I have been skint from paying of the solicitors and other debts she has left me with, and she knows I am skint.
since then our child has been used to get what she wants and cotnatc messed about.
Now she is threatening court, and to use the proposed domestic violence material against me, to loose contact with my child or to put me away, Can she do this.

she has also told em to ammend a court document to basicly say I was lieing, and then by the sounds of it, do me for deformation of character, and wasting social services time.

I am harrassed by her telephone calls as they can be constant and says I am not willing to speak about our child but when I do speak to her all I get is abuse!!

can any one help??

[deannatrois]

I suspect that there is too little information here for us to help u. Why is she able to threaten u with problems over defomation of character and wasting social services time (which she can't do as anyone with concerns over a child is actually obliged to call social services, the law and other organisations are very strong on that, even if someone is really making false claims to cause harrassment) so I'd let any of those threats just wash over you.

Have u tried court mediation.., I'd have thought it wouldn't look terribly good for her if she creates more problems during mediation.

However, I know I'm gonna sound like I am preaching and I do know its hard.., but try and avoid retaliating against her behaviour. Whatever u do.., you know your daughter will suffer most of all.

Have u tried http://www.fnf.org.uk...ACFV1d4wodGhqalA?????

[looby1914]

Im in the middle of a court case similar but im the victim and trying to protect my son. of what ive picked up on so far domestic violence wont stop you seeing your child as long as
a) no harm was ever to the said child at all
b) you are still vioent/aggressive/abusive threatening etc etc

If you were to go down the court routes, you can get a judge to deem what contact you should have and it would be done legally. That way your ex can not go against what the court have made.

If you are getting harrassed by the ex save all evidence and make a harrassment case with the police.

[ukvillafan]

You need a proper lawyer and an ppropriate application to court for contact. There is no other way unless you are willing to make the application without a solicitor's help. The local court office will give you any necessary forms but cannot help you fill them in. See if your local law centre can help.