Am I best out of this relationship?

[cherrybakewell]

Been dating a man for a few months. He was very "full on" from the start. Things started to get awkward, ie if I didnt contantly show him I loved him all the time, If I had my mobile with me (its a habit) if I went on the internet while he was around. One minute he loved me, next he would shout at me, and leave. I told him I could not be in a relationship like this, so he was then very verbally abusive. Now I feel bad, and wonder if it was all my fault. He knows I have self esteem issues. Part of me knows I have done the right thing, as he was very scary at times to me. But I still am now, blaming myself.

[NoMercy]

NoKnow... what do you mean the partners of these mates will "not be allowed" out of the house?? Are you really friends with these t0ssers?

[cherrybakewell]

Thank you all for taking the time to reply to me. I appreciate it x

[ummmm]

Marty wouldn't dream of stopping me from doing anything. Love and trust....

[NoMercy]

Well what would they do if their partners rebelled?

lol... I bet your Mrs. wears the trousers in your house....

[ummmm]

The spelling police are not on tonight?

[bobjugs12]

Another blokes perspective on this:

The fella sounds like he has even more self-esteem issues thatn you. He appears massively insecure, and propbably hates himself for doing this to you. I can imagine that he has been hurt badly in the past and doesn't want it happening again.

However, none of these are your problems. Until he can sort himself out then he shouldn't be trying to start new relationships. A wise man once said "You can't be with someone until you can be on your own." What he means is that until he has proved to himself that he's in a relationship through want rather than need, he's going to have these issues.
From your perspective, I would walk away. Maybe in the future, whatever attracted you to him will still be there, maybe not. But right now he will drag the pair of you down, till there is no love just anger and dependance.

[cherrychapstick]

Hi

i think yes you have done the right thing...he sounds really possessive and you are better off finding someone who will treat you as an equal not as their possession,you are your own person ......no_know is right though he may not have ever stopped you going out but you have been seeing him a few months that wouldn't be long before he done that too

good luck ....take care xx

[oldhamfan]

Get rid

[Redrum]

Having been involved with someone very similar, I can tell you now, GET OUT. HE WILL GET WORSE, and his verbal abuse will turn to physical abuse...he will brainwash you until you dont know what day of the week it is. He will stop you socializing with family and friends and will stop you being you. Please, dont let him so this to you, you are worth so much more....believe me, they are disordered and beyond help, no matter how you feel about him. It is not how love should be.

[cherrybakewell]

Thankyou bobjugs, cherry, oldhamfan,vibrasphere and Redrum, for taking the time to reply. Much appreciated