should i apologise to my boss

[evedawn]

[boxtops]

Depends - what for?

[evedawn]

oops i submitted the Q without details:
at work and trying to do this between people at the counter...more details to follow...

[Bbbananas]

Never apologise and never explain.

[evedawn]

well...i have zero respect for her as she is lazy, obnoxious, ineffectual, (you get my drift?) :-) but lastnight was a b**** of a night session and she decided to leave as she "was exhausted"...I was sarcastic and said well so were we all...and what a shame we can't all leave when we've had enough!! ( I WAS very sarcastic but it was cos of what I feel is constant lack of support)...but really wiht hindsite that was unprofessional of ME cos really as the boss she is entitled to leave as and when and she does not have to answer to me really....

[boxtops]

You could say that you regretted the way you said it, but that you felt that it was justified if everyone else was exhausted too. I don't see why she should be able to do something which the rest of the team can't. I have a team under me at work and I do feel answerable to them for my actions when they too are working their socks off, the leader needs to set an example otherwise everyone will be off doing their own thing. If it were me then yes, I might apologise for the way I spoke, but justify it by explaining that you were just as exhausted as her and you too would have liked the chance to slope off early.

[Ankou]

the physical and mental pressure of being a boss can sometimes be far more exhausting than being a minion just doing what they are told.

don't know your role, the hours involved, or what a ** session is, but perhaps an apology of the sort boxtops outlines would be in order. after all, if she is your boss, she may have to make decisions or give opinions about your future.

[evedawn]

hmm boxtops I may just do that. Apologise for HOW I said it not WHAT I said. If ONLY we had a leader who tried to set an example....! She's forever dashing off here, there and everywhere during work,...to let the dog out, to feed her horse, to have her hair done,...the daily list is endless.!!!!

[evedawn]

Well, ankou, none of us class ourselve's as "minions" thanks and yes, being a boss does have pressures attached...but as a team we end up "carrying" her ALOT of the time...believe me!

[lotsafun]

i would perhaps apologise for her for the way it came out just to keep the peace in work and not make it arkward, however as your team leader she should not be slping off early when the going gets tough as she should be setting a example to her staff. How do you think she would react if one of you did what she did, im under no doubt that she would say something to you.Infact, no, i wouldnt apologise you were perfectly in your right to say what you did. I would also report her to head office if you feel she is not doing her job properly :)

[Ankou]

you are there to support your boss. call it carry if you like, but that is your role and that is life.

[sara3]

do a technical apology, "sorry if I upset you yesterday, but I was tired".

thus not apologising for actually saying it!

if she has a face like thunder and you want to keep your job.. grovel.. but not in public ;o)

[Bbbananas]

absolutely agree with sara....apologise without actually saying the word sorry.

[brenda]

I wouldn't raise the matter unless she does, and then I would do as others have said.

[ummmm]

Did she leave anyway?

If so, what you said had no impact..!!

[China Doll]

I would ask for a chat with her and say that while you apologise for your attitute, the sentiment remains and give reasons and examples of why you feel fed up.

I told my manager I was absolutely disgusted with how her and the management team run the departments, cited several examples and expressed the opinion that everything I said was not 'news' to her but she'd been happy to drag her feet and I was completely fed up as a result. As she had to agree that the examples I cited were 'not acceptable' she was left with no choice but to look sufficiently ineffectual which i think will prove to be the same as the actions she takes but either way... I pulled her up for her lack of work, am glad I did, have made a note of everything I said for future reference if needs be and have absolutely no intention of saying I'm sorry.

I'm also looking for a new job though as I don't like being unhappy with management so I would only tackle something once I knew what my course of action was likely to be.