how does my boyfriend adopt my daughter

[kmckie88]

i have a 3yr old daughter and have been with my partner since she was 2 and a half months old we have allready change her surname to his and he wants to adopt her but i dont how to go about it?her bological father left me when i was 5 months pregnant and is not on the birth certificate and has never seen her since she was 1 month old but has paid around £25 csa over the last 3yrs do i have to have his signature?

[B00]

You've only known your partner 6 months and you've already changed your daughters name to his? My goodness, are you always this quick with decisions that could effect other people (your child) for a long time to come?

[tamborine]

Since you're looking for legal actions I think bf has got to wed you first.

[snags]

2 and a half months B00... not years...

[B00]

Wrong way round Snags, years not months ;-) But yes your right, I did initially read the timescale wrong.

Still, doesn't alter my opinion. I'd still want to make a boyfriend something more than just a boyfriend before i did something like this.

kmckle, apologies, i know you didn't ask for opinions, but I really hope you've thought of the long term implications of this.

[dothawkes31]

How did you change her surname? Her surname will be the same as yours, you can call her what you like but it will not be her legal name for passport/directgov applications. I the csa are taking money off her father he would need to know if your BF adopts the child, as that means the child is no longer legally his responsibility financially,

[snags]

No... the child was 2 and a half months old is what the OP said ;-p

[dothawkes31]

The csa will be persueing your ex or money if you have been in reciept of any sort of state benefit over the past 3 years, if your BF is adopting the child tell the csa to close the case, I agree with B00.

[kmckie88]

we never change her name till she 2 and started going to playgroup and i meet my parnter yrs before i feel pregnant and we where close friends before we got together so its not like i dont know him and we are planning to get married

[johnny.5]

her/your surname can be whatever you like and it will be legal for driving licence and passport so long as its not used for fraud purposes

[kmckie88]

we changed it throught the doctors and we can used it on everything

[johnny.5]

and as long as you are not trying anything fraudulent they can keep it forever as their real/legal name

[dothawkes31]

Oh i didn't know you could change a minors name at you GPs surgery.

[B00]

rofl dotty, naughty naughty ;-)

[dothawkes31]

except for their passport, national insurance number, tax records and driving license johnny

[tamborine]

there's 2 threads - same subject.....thought I had dementia for a mo'

http://www.theanswerb...l/Question888984.html

[kmckie88]

the whole reason i ask my original question was to avoid question like that in the future ? dothawkes

[Buenchico]

I've posted on your other thread regarding adoption but I'll just add a comment here about name changes.

As has been stated, anyone in the UK can use any name they like, at any time, as long as there is no intent to defraud anyone by doing so. When I was teaching many pupils used names which were different to those on their birth certificates. (There were several children in every class doing so). However it caused no end of problems when it came to those pupils sitting public examinations (GCSEs). Only the pupil's 'official' name can be used for examination entries. That meant that someone who'd been called 'James Parker' since he was a toddler (and might even have been unaware that his birth certificate named him as 'James Kersey') could only receive a certificate with 'James Kersey' on it.

There's no official way of changing a child's name but a letter from a responsible person, such as your GP, will usually suffice as evidence that the name has been changed. If I understand your post correctly, you've obtained such a letter. Please allow me to stress how important it is that you don't lose that letter. It could be vital to your daughter in the future, when she starts to encounter 'officialdom'.

Chris

[johnny.5]

you are correct dot but they can be changed using deed poll after she is 16 and I dont think she will be needing many of them

[kmckie88]

thank you every one how help by giving me info and to the other who have turn into to agony aunties we all have our own veiws on things and this was not something i just thought of one day my boyfriend was adopted and he is happy i dont plan to hide any thing from my daughter when she is older just like my partners parents did with him