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Bullying again!
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No question, just a rant - found out last night that my son is being bullied again - nothing physical this time, they are taunting and making him the scapegoat and generally winding him up. Only found out as his friends mum phoned me to let me know that her son had been quite upset about how they are treating my son and she told me that she had written to their school teacher last week, but kept forgetting to tell me. He has been playing up a bit over the last few weeks and gettiing upset easily, but I just thought maybe that it was his hormones starting to kick in, now it all makes sense. Little G I T S. Grrrr!
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Sorry Annie to hear about your son - not sure how old your son is, but if you mention hormones kicking in I am guessing around 13ish.
When my son was just going into year 9 at secondary school - he refused point blank to go back after the 6 weeks holidays. To cut a long story short, I never did get to the bottom of it. I know it was not physical bullying, because my son can handle himself, and it would have been sorted - but all sorts was going through my mind, from mental bullying to sexual abuse by a teacher.
In the end, he was off school for 7 weeks, I was threatened with court action, but stuck to my guns and removed him from the school. We went on appeal to get him into another school, which we won. My personal opinion was he was having problems with mentally bullying from someone - as you say with the hormone thingy, they are finding their feet and can be quite sensitive to cruel comments.
Bypass the teachers and take things into your own hands Annie - it will be the only way to get a result.
When my son was just going into year 9 at secondary school - he refused point blank to go back after the 6 weeks holidays. To cut a long story short, I never did get to the bottom of it. I know it was not physical bullying, because my son can handle himself, and it would have been sorted - but all sorts was going through my mind, from mental bullying to sexual abuse by a teacher.
In the end, he was off school for 7 weeks, I was threatened with court action, but stuck to my guns and removed him from the school. We went on appeal to get him into another school, which we won. My personal opinion was he was having problems with mentally bullying from someone - as you say with the hormone thingy, they are finding their feet and can be quite sensitive to cruel comments.
Bypass the teachers and take things into your own hands Annie - it will be the only way to get a result.
When my niece was being bullied my sister didn't tell me as I would have been straight down the school to thump the kids in question. The headteacher humiliated the bullies in front of everyone in assembly prior to a school trip, by telling them they weren't getting on the trip in front of everyone and the reason why, like her style, and it worked!!!!
Hi Den - how awful for you and your boy - I know what you mean about taking matters into your hands, I really do feel like doing something to them, We have no relationship left with the others boys parents any more. He is almost 10 so still got the teenage hormones to come, but he is growing and filling out across the chest.
when I passed my 11+ exams, many years ago I went to a school in Mansfield about 10 miles from were I lived and to make it worse I had measles and so was a week late starting by which time I was outside the many little groups that had already formed and I become the target for one particular guy and his cronies. This carried on for several weeks until I happened to meet this guy at a local football game. He started on me as soon as he saw me I cracked and gave him a right good pasting ending up by telling him the next time I got any more problems at school no matter who from HE was going to another thumping, didn't make me any more popular at school but it stopped the bullying. Unfortunately doesn't help your lad as if he did the same with the PC *** we've got pretending they're teachers he'd be the one excluded.
paddywak - we have come to the conclusion that getting him to hit them is really the only way that it will stop. He is a actually a big strong boy - his friends Mum can't understand why they would pick on him, however, it is his personality that makes him a target - he is quiet and not very confident - we have tried to work on his confidence since he was little, but it is things like this that set him back. As for the school, we told them the last time that they would push him so far and he would blow and given his size - he is nearly 5 foot tall and does judo and swims and loads of other sport, so is pretty strong - he would possibly hurt someone badly. We also made it clear that if he did, we would not punish him and that we would fight any punishment that they tried to give him.
moses - similar happened the last time - the boys in question missed out on the summer party that the head hosts for all the pupils who haven't lost golden time. When they went back after the summer we had one incident which I witnessed and was handled by the new teacher. Since then it has all gone quiet. When they did their swimming classes he gained a lot of confidence as he was already a good swimmer and the 3 boys couldn't swim at all. But here we are again!
Bobbi - the 3 boys aren't brothers, I had a job stopping my younger son from piling in to the boys last time, but he was in a different playground - now they are in the same playground, but they seem smart enough to keep out of the younger one's way - he is not quiet like his brother.
moses - similar happened the last time - the boys in question missed out on the summer party that the head hosts for all the pupils who haven't lost golden time. When they went back after the summer we had one incident which I witnessed and was handled by the new teacher. Since then it has all gone quiet. When they did their swimming classes he gained a lot of confidence as he was already a good swimmer and the 3 boys couldn't swim at all. But here we are again!
Bobbi - the 3 boys aren't brothers, I had a job stopping my younger son from piling in to the boys last time, but he was in a different playground - now they are in the same playground, but they seem smart enough to keep out of the younger one's way - he is not quiet like his brother.
i got bullied at school now i have 3 lads and told em out right if they getting hit at school hit back if they are been called at school call em back.thing is its a bit hard to do this if your son is been bullied by 3 or more and to be honest since leaving school has been great ive bumped into almost all the bullies from my school and 12 years later and x amount of feet taller not one of them has tried out well all part one when i started a new job at 17 but he got his.i was told your in the wrong if you hit back but saying that i knew a girl who did her self in at our school because no one said out till it was to late just hope this does not happen for your son.
exactly my fear bozie :o( - he didn't tell me about any of it - I had to find out from his friends Mum. But it all fits now - he was asking to come and sleep in my bed last week which is something that has only ever happened a couple of times when he was little and not feeling well. I kind of wish I had said yes now, but there really isn't room for him to start squashing in with us now and my OH didn't fancy the bunk bed!
After my little incident I was banned for the rest of the season for fighting on the pitch, in trouble with dad, not so much for fighting but for getting banned from footie, in SERIOUS trouble with mum, (what will the neighbours think,it made the local paper, boys banned for fighting on the pitch) and the school headmaster, (even if it wasn't a school function you represent the school). The good side was that it did wanders for my confidence and I gained the reputation (totally undeserved) of being somebody who was'nt to be messed with that followed me through life with the result that I had very rarely had any trouble
I had a similar incident, having been the smallest first former the school had ever had! There was one particular guy who used to give me a hard time until one day I completely lost it and hit him. It was only one punch, one of those that you could try to do and never do again, a straight right to the heart and he went out like a light - I thought I had l killed him. Fortunately there were others who said what had happened and told the staff, so just got told off, but so did he when he came round, He soon recovered, and I never had any trouble again.....
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