Where do you turn?

[Mamyalynne]

When you hit rock bottom and have nowhere to go, what do you do? Samaritans only listen, friends struggle and you don`t want to burden your children. Its a catch 22 sort of situation isn`t it? Maybe tomorrow will bring some light.

M

[Mamyalynne]

am going to bed now ♥

[tamborine]

Grieving gets worse before it gets better; when you think your over it the TV plays OH fav tune in adverts to haunt you....that's what I get. Mam you know the Abers are here for you.

Visit me & fill my lonesome day....where r you?

[rowanwitch]

When you are that low sometimes it is the strangest things that give you a lifeline.....If you have a garden perhaps you might like try a little thing I have found helpful..... write down your feelings good and bad and burn the paper keep the ashes dig a small hole put the ashes on the bottom fill it back up and sow some seeds on top and just promise yourself you will hold on to see them flower. Night scented stock is good because it grows really quickly. by watching them grow you take on some of the positive energy. you may find some of the plants grow badly they are feeding on the negative thoughts pull them up and throw them away because by then you will be ready to do this.... sounds like complete rubbish I know . But may work for you if you don't have a garden a pot on a window sill will do I hope you feel better today

[woofgang]

I think a bit it depends on what rock bottom you have hit. If listening isn't enough, do you want advice? practical help? a hug? I see your avatar is a nurse..if you are one in the NHS then many NHS employers offer counselling services for their staff now.

[Bbbananas]

Hope you're feeling a little brighter this morning mamy. Maybe your children would want to be 'burdened'? Maybe some friends would struggle less than others?

[woofgang]

believe me I'd love to have my Mum back again to be burdened by her worries

[Bbbananas]

There you go Mamy - think on that. And I'm sure my kids would rather know my worries than be kept in the dark and me letting them think that all in my garden is lovely. And I would like it if my own mother talked to me a little more about her inner feelings....x

[Old_Geezer]

Listening is good. Often one needs to work things out for oneself, and a sounding board helps.

Where do I personally turn ? My partner springs to mind, if the situation makes it applicable. Otherwise I suppose there are siblings, but typically I tend to think things out for myself much of the time.

[ummmm]

Remind yourself that you're are bound to have bad days/weeks. You spend a life time with someone and the pain of losing them is never to going to go away.

I came to the conclusion that at these bad times it was better to go along with it. Your mind and your heart are still dealing with your grief....so let the grief come out.

When I felt really down I use to put the headphones on (still do sometimes) and listen to all my Dad's favourite songs....and cry my heart out until there were tears left. Just getting it out of my system made me feel better. Until the next time.

I agree with the others...I'm sure your kids wouldn't see it as a burden. I'm sure they would hate to think that their mother was going through this on her own. Talk to them Mamy xxx

[Jemisa]

Awww! Mamyalynne, Soo sorry you're feeling blue at the moment, one thing you have got is time and believe me in time this will pass. You of all people feeling like this, you've always been there for us ABers to give an opinion or good advice and you yourself have been a comfort. So we want the old mamyalynne back soon. Remember the fresh breeze that blows is your loved one blowing kisses.
♥

Jem.

[tamborine]

In my own grief I forget my childrens grieving.....they have lost the mainstay to their lives. Talk to your children & let your memories live.

Display the photos for all to remember the better days. ((((((hug for mam)))))

[Mamyalynne]

Thankyou all for reading my ramblings and your wonderful and wise replies, we do talk and share memories and photos are all about. I think we have to accept that some times things rise up and knock us back a bit. Mamya`s back, Love you all.♥


(ps for those who don`t know, am not medically qualified, just a cute image)

[gerry999]

just read ur question there now an i want to say that when you hit rock bottom the only way is up,you need to give your self a break and be proud of your self for looking forward,make sure you take plenty of rest and stay positive.