Have I stayed with her too long!?!?

[benny3008]

My girlfriend is driving me up the walls! We've been going through a rough patch recently as we haven't been able to see each other, she has been having problems with her mum and I have had alot on my mind regarding work and college. :-( this has caused us not to be able to see each other for just over a month however we have still been together and speaking on facebook. Now, earlier in the week we arranged to meet up at her house at 6:00 yesterday evening, she e-mailed me yesterday evening "Sorry, i cant meet today, i'm ill" So i thought nothing of it, we spoke later on and i said okay, do you want to do it tommorow night instead? she agreed so all was good, she e-mailed me yet again earlier on saying "I didnt get much sleep last night so im going to get some sleep, sorry cant meet you", now this has really p!ssed me off! she is forever coming up with excuses as to why she cant meet. I have said to her, is our relationship not worth more than facebook chat?!?! she told me her mum suffers with anxiety hence its difficult for me to go to her house because her mum doesn't like meeting new people, (she lives with her mum and i have not yet been to her house). I am really fed up with her constant excuses but when im with her, im happy. I don't know what to do! :-(

[supersuezy24]

Benny, I know this might be a long shot but maybe she might suffer with anxiety too? I get anxious like that from time to time and would change plans often when I'm feeling anxious

[society]

Tell her how you view the relationship and ask her what the problem is. Then you'll know better if you stand a chance of being together and have a meaningful relationship.

[benny3008]

Just speaking to her now, i'll let you al know how it goes. :-)

[cazzz1975]

you know benny maybe she is embarrassed about something at home, it may be nothing major but she does not want you to see whatever it is for fear you will judge her. it reminds me of when kids are younger and going to each others houses, one kid doesnt want anyone to visit them because their house is untidy or cluttered with ornaments (that was a reason for a friend of mine, she also thought her mom was mad (she wasnt)

maybe she needs to open up a bit more about her life, there must be some reason behind the cloak and dagger behaviour