Pros and Cons of dating an older guy?

[dollypins]

I'm planning on staying single for a while but I'm entertaining the thought of being with an older guy (no, not the ex's father) but just an older bloke in general. Any experiences of being with an older man? What are the pros and cons? Thanks

[Robinia]

I'm sure he brightened your day Lottie :o)

Anyway, to get back to Dollypins... I'd say don't set your mind on dating a man of any particular age, just enjoy your freedom, mix with all ages and when you're least expecting it someone will come along & you won't care what his age is! ;o)

[LoftyLottie]

You can't plan these things. And there is nothing wrong with being single! You can have a lot of fun.

[Charlie911]

Hi dollypins. We've never spoken before but I just gotta add my 2 pennyworth. Firstly I had to laugh at squads reply "Easy.....a younger man is just interested in sex............an older man is interested in you as a person and treats you as such...................and then he sh@gs you."

But when I was in my early 20's I always dated younger girls. 18-20. Then when I hit 30 I started to date 25 year olds. I'm not 53 and and still always get on with the opposite sex better than my own. That's not to say I'm a dirty old man, but younger women still talk to me and I still get offers!! I know, amazing, especially if you could see me. But I always thear the lady with respect. I don't think when I was younger I did but I certainly do now.

If I was on the lookout now I'd look for around 35 mark. But I'm happily married nowadays. Thankfully because my wife is the best woman I've ever met.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is go with your own feelings. If you fancy actually talking to a guy instead of being talked at, then I'd go for an older guy.

[karenmac60]

Mr mac is 15 years older than me, and it can have its upsides and downsides. He's very young at heart and we have a great laugh and lots in common, but he can be very set in his ways and his health isn't great which can be very restrictive. I'd say just go for the person that they are - age is only a number and you can't make blanket statements like all young men are one thing while all older men are another. Everyone is different and a lot of that has very little to do with age.

[missnemesis]

dolly why don't you just wait until you meet a guy and see how things go. Surely his age should be irrelevant (within reason). Unless of course you are looking for a sugar daddy

[rowanwitch]

Out of my previous relationships 5 out of 6 were older than me...range 7-12 years now Redman is 16 years older than me and the gap seems nothing at all...yes there are/will be problems not least those relating to life expectancy but we've talked about this and as nothing is guaranteed quality is more important than quantity
My mum and one of my friends would both agree my mum only had my dad for 9 years and my friend in london only had 13 weeks with her husband after they married...

[B00]

They'll die quicker (hopefully), leaving a blissful silence in their wake.

[karenmac60]

That's very true Rowan. My aunt married when she was very young as her fiance was dying. He lasted a week after the wedding. She has since had another husband and 2 long term relationships but neither have ever lived up to her first.

[bednobs]

pro = they are often netter in bed
pro = they care less about superficial things thank young blokes (by this i mean appearance really - not that they dont care if you look rubbish, but they have had time to appreciate that looks aren't everything)
pro = they often have more money/ their own place in which you can do it
pro = good for a short term relationship (then the things you don't have in common aren't at the forefront

con = the sometimes come with baggage and or children/ex wives
con = not great for long term relationships as the "different interests" thing comes into play

[B00]

Wey hey at being netter in bed!!!!

(sorry bednobs)

[wiggal]

Hey dollly...

I'm 23 and my OH is 40. Yes there are the things like differences in music taste and programmes and stuff, but I wouldnt really call it an issue! We get on fantastically, and are both very happy :-)

I would say though, dont aim for getting with someone older. While you are concentrating on finding someone older, Mr Right may just pass you by! Why not just carry on with things and see who you meet and hit it off with?

Personally, I have never been with anyone younger, my ex was 6 years older then me, and I was with him from the age of 17, so older blokes it is for me!

[angry2008]

im 24 my other half is 43... we've been together 5 years....
pros:
1.more life experience so tend to know how to treat a woman and what she wants
2.sexually experienced... always a bonus..
3.usually committed..

cons:
1.might be possessive
2.might be like a father figure
3.life experince - not always a good thing as mentioned above... especially when your right about something and they're adament your wrong...
4. baggage - most will have baggage either a deranged ex wife or girlfriend is usually lurking in the dark somewhere waiting to put her ten pence in.. obviously children - if he has any... mine has 2 - one 15 one 19 both boys...
5.and the big one - YOU CANT TEACH AN OLD DOG NEW TRICKS - don't try to change some one set in their ways -it wont happen

other than that I have had 5 glorious years with my other half... there was a deranged ex - there were issues over life experience etc... but I wouldn't swap him for the world..

[andy-hughes]

As previous threads have confirmed, you really can't generalise about these matters.

To assume that an 'older' man is better in bed is as ludicrous as assuming that a sixteen-year-old in a school uniform is a vamp who is desparate to be 'educated' in the bedroom area - it may be true, but age is not an automatic indication.

A friend of mine married his wife when he was forty, and she was twenty-six. Only problem was, he looked more like sixty, and she looked seventeen, so they were often mistaken for father and daughter! People were always embarassed, but they found it amusing, if slightly wearing to have to reassure people that they were not offended.

They have split up now - maybe the age gap, I don't know.

[Greedyfly]

In my experience older is always better but as in most relationships there are compromises. I found when I was really young there was a lot I wanted to do and experience that the O/H already had done and didn't really want to repeat but I wouldn't change him for the world.

I would like to point out that my O/H and myself have very little in common with regards to music/hobbies/films etc... but after nearly ten years we are still together and still have fun regardless. As long as your both happy, it's legal and not hurting anyone who cares what the age difference is?!