what should i do

[jackles]

my husband dropped dead 13 years ago nov 15. i stayed alone for 9 years then met up with a guy i first new when i was 18. i fell in love with the rebel he used to be.he has livede with me for 3 years. but now he is i took him out for his birthday fri night; fell off my boots and spraineed or broke my ankle. since then have hopped about cookin meals for him and his visiting family.he has just gone to bed knowing i cant walk and knowing ive had a few vodkas. i think he is an unfeeling rat.but at the end of the day i want some one to holiday with. if this makes any sense with any one please let me know

[MickyMacgraw]

The clear clues are here, you are injured and he doesn't want to help you and even increases your workload. This adds up to a man that will never help you and will sit and watch and maybe even privately ridicule you to his friends and family. If he doesn't want to help you with a sprained ankle what will be his role during a pregnancy, childbirth or raising children? You want to sell your dignity just to have someone to go on holiday with? Better find someone else to go with, dump him the day before you go and start a new life feeling stronger and better about yourself.

[jackles]

sorry for my vodka driven outburst and thanks for all your help and support.x

[mazie]

How's your ankle this morning jackles?

[ummmm]

Do things look better in the cold light of day?

[lumination]

what were you guys doing up at 2 in the morning?! crazy people.
anyway Jackles, maybe you should talk to him? not like a full on serious conversation but maybe play up that your ankle is really hurting and asking him to help you with some things. if he kicks up a fuss, then i would tell him to get his butt in gear if he wanted to be with me.

[beverleymot]

have you actually asked him for a bit of help around the house an dstuff while your injured? might be an idea to...

[ummmm]

My OH wouldn't even notice what needed doing unless I told him....bless :-)

[jackles]

still sore.just had to get a taxi to go to the shop.i always thought it was better to be alone than with the wrong person hence the 9 yrs i spent alone.after about 6 yrs tho on a new years eve-more vodka-i remember crying on my sons shoulder because i was so lonely.and thats the problem-i dont wnt to go back to that so i think i should start putting my foot down-which i can do but spend most of my time just wanting an easy life-and stick up for myself more.what annoys me too is that after what happened to my husband and then 5 years later we had a really bad house fire,could have died,had to move out for 6 mths. my other half makes a big deal over what i see as really trivial things,not putting the bin out or not turning lights off.just glad to get all this off my chest. thanks.

[mazie]

my OH is a pain in the harris when it comes to nagging about turning lights off and using the tumble drier etc.... I'm easy going and he's a bit intense. You just have to make allowances for the more trivial things jackles. Don't however not speak your mind if some things get on your nerves and you think you need more help tell him. some thins men just dont see. Anyway good luck with it all jackles x

[Dris]

jackles -sure we're not sharing the same guy?Chapter and verse honestly.Take care -let us know how you go x