Sibling rivalry

[tillyh345]

I have two sons 28 and 22, the 28 year old has been through a lot since he was in his teens, all brought on by himself and for that reason has lived with us on and off.... therefore the 22 year old had our undivided attention and I must add has been a model child/teenager and now adult, he really has been my rock at times, but now the problem is, my eldest son has sorted himself out and now visits us regularly, but my youngest gets very sulky and usually goes off to his room. Now I know he has been through a lot together with us due to the eldest sons behaviour but I am surprised by this behaviour as normally he is very mature beyond his years. Has anyone had any experience of this or any advice. Thank you in advance.

[tillyh345]

Thank you all for your comments. Things have moved on slightly in that the youngest one has a blood clot in his leg and has had to go to the hospital yesterday and today therefore it was easier for him to stay with us last night. Youngest son still not right, came in and went upstairs to his room again after his tea and went off to work this morning just muttered see ya later. I did get a test in reply to mine to him yesterday telling him ai DONT WANT TO FALL OUT AND i LOVE HIM. His reply was yes he loves me too but him and his brother are two different people and both men! Was tempted to go back with "then why cant you act like it and make an effort just to be civil to him" but i thought better of it. His character is that he can be very sulky anyway, so I think its just best to see what evolves. He may cheer up over the weekend! hopefully.

[starone]

My brother died before we could make friends and I vowed then that I would never quarrel with anyone again. Make my views known - yes - but not to the extent that you become estranged. Life is too short.

[missnemesis]

As his mother tilly you have decided to forgive your eldest for whatever it is he has done in the past and for you that's great but your younger has seen/heard/gone through things because of his brother too and I think it's maybe a bit unfair of you to expect the 'prodigal son' to be accepted instantly with open arms by everyone. Not everyone's love is unconditional.

[missnemesis]

younger son*

[ummmm]

Well said miss..