What to do?

[boona]

Long story but to cut it short, mum and sister dont speak, I speak to sister but mum doesnt like it, mum says nasty things about what my sister has said about me in the past, mum says them out of spite because she doesnt like me being friendly with sister. Yesterday she said something nasty about what my sister said when my baby was born. it has upset me but this is my dillemma, do I tell my sister that I know what she said? I am really annoyed with my mum because she said it out of spite and it was a comment that I didnt really need to know. I feel like not speaking to my mum again because she is spiteful against my sister.

[milly143]

Tell your Mum you don't want to hear it. She sounds very childish for a woman who has two adult children.

I wouldn't say anything to your sister either, it's likely to just cause more of a rift that you don't need.

[woofgang]

simple advice, get out of the middle. Tell your mum you love to see her but don't want your time with her wasted with spite.

[society]

Mum should be covering for your sister instead of trying to cause a rift between both of you. I'd tell Mum if she has negative things to say about sister to keep it to herself otherwise I'd steer clear from her. When Mum's gone you and your sister will still have each other to lean on, don't fall out with sister and give mum the satisfaction. How do you know what Mum is telling you is the truth? Sounds to me like Mum is trying to make you and your sister become enemies.

[boona]

Thankyou, Im so annoyed with my mum, what my sister said was mean but I wont mention it too her. Mum hasnt called me today, she knows I am mad with her.

[redcrx]

if your mum and sister dont speak then why would your sister be saying anything horrible about you to her anyway?

[boona]

I know she is telling the truth because she never lies, but she is so spiteful and jealous its untrue.

[boona]

Hi redcrx, it was something my sister said about me, but it was a year ago, when they were speaking.

[joko]

she may not be lying exactly...but she could be putting a spin on it...

i think you should mention it to your sister, give her chance to explain etc...i would be horrified if i found that a simple innocent comment id made had been twisted and passed on ...

[boona]

Maybe I will mention it to my sister in a few weeks, when Ive calmed down!

[sherrardk]

HI boona, my mother was the same when she was alive. very manipulative - loved it when I wasn't speaking to my sister and really peed off when I was. I choose to ignore what she said (it would always have been a fabrication or taken out of context). Strangely though, since my mother has died my sister has turned into her - nasty, judegemental, taking the moral high ground, etc. (PS - not talking to her again!)

[boona]

Oh no, thats a shame! I have two sisters, my other sister is like my mum. I am nothing like that, thank god!