You're probably causing the difficulty yourself. Cats far prefer soft lights Possibly plus soft music, and lots of warmth. I would suggest that your cats would prefer that you move into a shed in the garden, only entering the house to supply food and make the bed., As for staring into eyes, this is only a matter for the cat's consideration and would be an intrusion into the cat's privacy. I would suggest that you consider your position, as you seem to be unaware of feline superiority !!!