Should I care or do anything?

[milly143]

I don't like my b/f best mate and he doesn't like me either. Apparently for the past 6 months or so the best mate has been slating me to my b/f and telling him if we ever got married he wouldn't come, etc. It all came to a head on the weekend. After they had been out drinking all day, the best mate decided to tell my b/f he thought I was an effing c**t. It didn't go down well with the b/f who ended up giving his mate a black eye. I don't really care what his mate thinks of me. The only reason he doesn't like me is because he would rather b/f was availble to go out on the pull and get wasted every weekend. He's such an immature little prat that his opinion means little to me. However, as much as I don't like him, I don't want bf to lose his friend. Do you think I should try and get in touch with him to clear the air or should I just leave them to sort it out?

[woofgang]

stay out of the middle. Really really stay out of it.

[ChuckFickens]

Sounds like it's not only the mate that immature if your boyfriends reaction was to smack his mate in the face in response to hearing something he didn't like.

[jd_1984]

If your B/F gave him a black eye it means he must really care about you as I know a lot of guys who would just laugh along and not risk falling out with their mate.
Ideally, your B/F's friends and you would all get on, but in reality this happens to a lot of couples. I see a lot less of my mates now as they have settled down, as have I. But, you have to grow up and accept that you people move on and find hapiness with others. It is usually the ones who try and pull the girls and do not want to settle down that ultimately end up alone with nobody to love.

[milly143]

I wasn't happy with him for doing it Chuck, although in a way I was pleased he stood up for me. He has been biting his tongue for a long time when things get said about me and as I said, they had been drinking since about 1pm, this happened about 10pm. That's the first time I have known him to be aggressive.

[LoftyLottie]

I seriously can't understand why this chap is still your boyfriend's best mate. Who wants a mate like this.

A mature man planning on marrying would certainly walk away from such a friend who calls his future wife such names.

Both of them sound extremely immature to me. Milly.

If he were my boyfriend I would be asking him where his loyalties really are!

[Robinia]

I don't understand why your bf is relaying these horrible comments to you at all. It's up to him to deal with it once and for all, preferably by walking away from the 'mate'. I agree with Lottie, they're both immature.

[milly143]

He didn't tell me about any of it until he came back on Saturday night furious. He told me what he did and why. I agree they are both immature, let's face it they are young men. But that wasn't the question.

[Robinia]

ok, to answer the question - Stay well away from the 'mate' ...if you do come face to face act with complete indifference. He might want your bf's attention but don't pay him any of yours.

[Bbbananas]

But there is no f in c**t ?
Ignorant boy.

[China Doll]

Keep out of it. There's enough nonsense flying about between the two fellas without you adding to it. Just ignore it all and pray that Santa brings them both some sense.

[McMouse]

beat me to it salla...........lol

[ummmm]

Milly - My boyfriends mates wouldn't get as far as saying anything like that about me. The first time they attempted to *** me off they would have been put in their place. Not that they'd do something like that as they have too much respect for my BF.