Help! lol

[richb14]

For the past 3/4 years i've been really confused about my sexuality and I still am. I've told some of my best friends and their all cool with it. But over the past few days i've been getting more and more confused about it and its really not fun lol. I wouldn't be ashamed if i was gay so it really wouldn't matter to me. I'm 15 by the way .Did anyone else go through this when before they realised they were gay or is this all just a VERY long phase? Thanx Rich.

[Info Freak]

sounds like even though you are confused you are in a good position. If you don't mind if your gay and if your friends are the same then just ride it out. its all hormores just taking their course so theres no point in rushing them because that would mean that your 'making up your mind' rather then 'being what you are'. What ever happens good luck

Info Freak

[littleoldme]

Hi richb14. Good answer from Info Freak there. Teenage hormones are evil beasts which, in some cases, can lead someone to feel that he/she may be attracted to his/her own sex instead of or as well as the opposite.

This is by no means unusual, and nothing to worry about, even if it does seem to be going on for a long time. Eventually your hormones will settle down (a bit!) and you'll know how you stand. Odds are you'll turn out heterosexual, but if you don't, it doesn't matter and it's cool that you and your friends seem prepared for this to happen. As Info Freak says, just take your time and let nature take its course. However you eventually end up, the most important thing is to be happy. The worst thing you can do is not to deny what you are to others, but to deny it to yourself.

Blimey. That's a bit profound for me. I think I'd better have a lie down in the dark.

[nicola_red]

I should add to these great answers that there isn't necessarily any 'making up your mind' to be done - you can be bi and be completely happy with it.  I started to realise that I was attracted to girls as well as boys when I was about 13 but it took me a good three or four years to admit it to myself as well as other people.  Now I'm totally comfortable with it and of course it means you get the best of both worlds!  Don't rush into any decisions - there's really no need.  Good luck.