How To Legally Disown My Family

[The Cowboy]

For years I have taken verbal abuse from my brothers and sister. They have looked down on me as unlike them I never owned my own house or made pots of money. I kept my mouth shut for the sake of my mother. Now that she has died I would legally like to be disowned from them. Is there a way I can do that.

Thanks

Cowboy

[Mosaic]

The thing is, if you look around you will doubtless find a legal firm who will take money off you for a piece of paper -- that you don't need.
I was iin a similar position to you, and simply left the siblings to rot after last parent died. During parent's life I did all the normal things - christmas cards, birthday cards, invitations to family do's - and got sneered at or ignored. Since I stopped bothering, they keep trying to engage my (non-existent) interest....
Look, you're a grown-up, you make your own decisions and friends. Move on, it's very liberating.

[The Cowboy]

I just want them to leave me alone. I will not be attending my mothers funeral as I can no longer keep my mouth shut and I am sure if I attend I will tell them my exact thought's, but as I don't want to cause any scene at her funeral I will stay away.

I will however do as Helen suggested and send each of them a polite letter requesting / telling them never to contact me again. Also as I have lived in this town for 60 years I will not move especially as my daughter who lives farther down my street is due to give birth to my first grandson in April.

[hasbeen2]

on a lighter note cowboy did you ever manage to download your music from podify?

[sara3]

are you sure you won't regret not going to the funeral? if you've controlled yourself up until now, surely you could see the funeral through?

don't let them win.

[murraymints]

sowboy... is it worth ...the regrets... i have had terrible times with family....but they remain.....please think about it

[The Cowboy]

I have made my decision and I am at peace with myself. When my mothers ashes have been interred beside my dad I will go to the cemetery on my own and make my peace with her.

Never did manage to download the music...lol.

[joko]

i wouldnt do it legally...if something unfortuantely ever happened to any of them , you may find yourself the beneficiary of their 'pots of cash'...despite the sad circumstances, what better revenge than to get that money that they lorded over you?

[bednobs]

plus you never know when you might need a bone marrow donor

[society]

Do you have a family of your own, children? Wouldn't you like you kids to know their aunts, uncles and cousins?

[whiskeryron]

First thing to do is change your phone number tell your supplyer you've been having a spate of nuisance calls you should have no trouble in changing, then only tell those that you want to know your number & go ex-directory.

[pyeth]

Cowboy, I have the same thing with my sisters, then they didn't like it as we sued the NHS and we are now comfortably off, not rich but no bill worries for the first time ever (for a while anyway) whatever I seem to do or don't is wrong. I just don't contact them anymore unless I have to (send them Christmas cards as a wind up though and I don't want to loose contact wiht my neices and nephews) When our parents passed away they were like vultures and cleared the place out before I could get there and left me what they considered to be rubbish and said so. When I told them there were a couple of things which weren't junk I was told that the particular (very famous) artists meant nothing. Better off without, and I know it's easier said than done, it's taken me years not to feel anything about it but I had to for my sanity and my children's sake. Good luck

[dotty.]

this thread has been enlightening, I had not realised how bitter other people could be towards their families,. I thought it was just me, is this perhaps why many ABers feel this 'belonging' to AB? Anyway, Cowboy, you do whatever works for you and don't look back.,

[papamam]

cowboy,,,,, im sorry for your heart ache, i am the youngest out of 4, my whole family including my own mom who by the way is now 85, all completly hate anything to do with me, and it has now rubbed off on my own son who they brain washed him in to running off, i keep, my self to my self with my husband, 2 letters no erm 1 phone call via a freinds brother and a paper cutting i had off my own mum to tell me 2 members of my family had died weeks to late to go funeral, but they did it best when my dad died mom told me it was best if i didnt go as he had his own family else where,no one else was going, so i didnt, day after i found out all 3 of my bro's and sister had gone, i was so up set, you would think as they are much older than me they would all have a heart, not a chance, p.s. this is the first message i have ever sent on here hope ive done it right xx