at what age should you find sex boring?

[sally1001]

Sounds a ridiculous question now i've written it but at the grand age of 27 i've gone off it. I love my partner very much but i'd just rather a cup of tea these days. Without sounding like an old slapper I had my peak at about 18 - it was all i did and thought about. Anyone else feel the same or is it just me...?

[4getmenot]

what do you mean should? you say it as if everyone goes off it, I know some of us dont like to think about it but some 80yr olds are still at it. I guess sometimes I cant be bothered and other times I bug him all the time.

[Scarlett]

You should just be coming into your sexual peak now!! women peak in their 30s. I think maybe your sex LIFE is in the doldrums rather than sex itself. You need to spice it up. Have you been with one person for a long time?

[China Doll]

Dear God never!!!

I mean you may not always be swinging from the chandeliers but it's a lovely thing to do and releases endorphines and it's fun and there's lots of ways to do it... all that sort of thing...

[pinkkitty]

I think maybe you should get away for the weekend and do loads of romantic things. Maybe that will help put the spice back into your life, or you could maybe experiment with toys and costumes etc.

One of my work friends is in her mid-thirties, and she feels the same way you do, but then she has 2 kids, and has been with her husband for almost 20 years.

[jiggy-gb]

It's probably a hormonal blip, if it doesn't pass soon get to the docs to have your levels checked out.

[mountainboo]

I've been with my partner for 10 years, he is 31 and I'm 26, he still has a high sex drive, but I could take it or leave really. I still find him very sexy but sometimes (most of the time) I'd rather just cuddle up on the sofa. Although, recently I went on holiday for 3 weeks with his family and without him and I couldn't stop thinking about him while I was away, so it was great fun when I got home... So in answer to your question, I feel the same as you.

[VillageVicar]

Sally, what you�ve written is not uncommon. It can relate to your home surroundings, such as if you have children, when you feel they�ve zapped the very last drop of life from your being. Or it could have to do with the doldrums � the absence of expectation. And, in the remotest of cases, it can be physiological. Medications, blood pressure, etc., can contribute to a change in both your sexual and emotional being.

I would also add that this time if year, particularly, can have an affect on anyone�s emotional state of being. It�s called S.A.D., which means �seasonal affective depression.� This relates to the some of our primal instincts to want to wind down and hibernate. It can manifest itself in many ways, including a reduced sexual drive.

In this instance I can only speak for myself. I used to �host� regular, but unannounced �Have I told you lately that I love you?� escapes. It required some planning on my part, especially in my own schedules. But it could anywhere from a night out in London at theatre and dinner, or a weekend retreat somewhere such as Copenhagen, Paris, Amsterdam, New York, etc.

I always did the packing (and yes ladies, I ALWAYS got it wrong!), but on one trip I had nothing in our overnight bag but a change of underwear, bars of chocolate, and a large bottle of oil.

But these times are important for both of you. It�s important to rediscover one another, to step out of the circle of day-to-day challenges. And it can be a wonderful bonding experience, allowing you to find that spark within.



http://bigworldsmallboat.blogspot.com/2006/06/ have-i-told-you-lately-that-i-love-you.html


I hope you will give my thoughts consideration. You may find that the glowing embers from within will renew themselves int

[VillageVicar]

renew themselves into pulsating flames.

I wish you every success

Fr Bill

[kp nonuts]

Im 50 and lippy ducks 45 we have lived together now for 3 years and we still have a dabble 3,4,5, or sometimes more times a week.
Just hope it dont spoil it when we get married next year

[feist]

when you're my parent's age... but I'd say 40.... By then, its time to put those old suspenders on your trousers and keep em there :)

[cheries]

Father Bill, you're a dark horse, aren't you?

[sally1001]

goodness, Fr Bill - that certainly sorted me out. thanks! (ever thought about a tv show..?)
I'm hoping you're all right and that its a blip or SAD. I've done all the crazy stuff with toys and dressing up etc years ago which i enjoy but now i guess choco hobnobs excite me more than suspenders.
thanks for all your advice- i feel better already x

[mandimoo]

dunno about going to the doc to get it checked out. i did cos i suffer same as you and she told me 'everyones different, try to go on holiday, otherwise tough' massively dissappointed at only 36 years old and 2 years into relationship.

[JonnyBoy12]

Yes, I am afraid you do sound a slapper, but I need to see proof for myself!