life at home

[jade4pop4eva]

hiya im 15 n i was just wondering if any of you have children my age would you let them go out wiv a boy who had turned 17 jus a couple of months ago? if not could you tell me y pls? and and can i leave home if i have some where else to live with two parents and a healthy environment? plz answer me thank you -x-

[kazza12345]

i think it depends what type of relationship you have wiyh your parents.  Have you been trustworthy before?  i think their main objection would be that it might become a sexual relationship, on that is illegal at your age and could present the boy with a prison sentance/prosecution.  I think a lot of parents also worry about their teenage daughters getting pregnant and "ruining" their lives.  I expect they just want to protect you.  The best way is to be open and honest and trustworthy

[simsfreq]

You can't move out legally until you are 16 unless social security think your parents are unfit to care for you. Maybe you should sit down and have a proper chat with them. As well as proving that you can be adult about things, it gives you a chance to see why they don't want you seeing him. If this boy isn't too shy, maybe you could arrange for him and your parents to meet. An older boyfriend for parents can seem scary - it gives them a chance to see he's not as scary as they think he is and also a chance for him to impress them!

[Jules001]

Girls mature earlier than boys which is why girls generally find boys of their own age too childish and are therefore attracted to an older boy. I have a 13 year daughter and if when she was 15 she wanted to go out with a boy of 17, I would probably allow it, but it depends on a lot of things. I would want to meet the boy, it would also depend on how much I could trust my daughter etc and I would worry of course about the issue of sex, but my daughter would know my feelings on that and hope have the respect for herself not to be drawn into doing something that would be both illegal and too soon. Also I think by saying no, she would probably want to go out with him even more, so may go behind my back and do it anyway. I would prefer that it was all out in the open and knew what was going on. Hope this is of some use to you, why don't you sit down with your parents , explain that you understand their concerns etc and get them to meet the boy in question. Hope everything turns out ok

[Louisebabe]

Hi Jade (thats my 13year old daughters name)!. You are still only young, and shouldnt be even thinking of moving away from home yet. Im sure your parents want the best for you, although you cant see it, and have your interests at heart. They love you to pieces im sure! Above all, dont be pressured into something you dont want to do...........xxx

[budgie56]

Hello Jade,

I have a 15 year old daughter that has destroyed any trust I had in her. I know if I said that she should not see this boy she would do it all the more. She is finding keeping to my rules more and more difficult, but what she fails to see is that she is very loved and protected. She feels the world is against her because things don't go her way. Hopefully when she is older and the world still at her feet she will be glad she will have such alot to look forward to and be glad that she listened to her mother who only has her best interests at heart. Take a deep breath and think what you were like a year ago, you will have grown up alot. You will have alot more growing to do.When you are 48 you will still be calling on your mothers advice. She will always be there for you. 

[haloulu]

Hiya Hon - I was in your situationi a few yrs ago when I was 15 i had an 18-yr-old boyf my mega srict parents were fine with it when they met him and realised he was a tidy respectable boy. 8 years on we are married with a baby and a mortgage.

Don't move out too soon tho take it from me make the most of these next few years and have lots of fun I know you are prob hopelessly in love now but there is a lot of fun to be had out there - don't miss out on it.

 

Ps I'm 23 not that horribly old if you want a chat to someone who has been there drop me a mail [email protected]

[edwina child]

take it slow babe it might work out it might not i met my husband when i was 18 he was 33 since then were married and just had a baby girl called dior and happy for now trust me we have had our fall outs. good luck