Why won't people move on after breaking up?

[david51058]

A friend of mine's girlfriend left him after a long relationship and he was very upset at the time. Now he has met someone else, the ex is trying to make things difficult for them. it's as though she is jealous. Why? She left him so what's the problem? Why do people do this? If they have split up then it's over, finished, move on.

[sara3]

how is this affecting you?

[RATTER15]

I agree but its not always so easy to do, just because they have split up, it doesn't mean they no longer love each other, it just means that they can no longer tolerate certain aspects of each other, so yes jealousy can still lurk and raise its head for years.

If life was so simple :-)

[Sqad]

"I don´t want him, but I don´t want anyone else to have him"..mentality.......it is a well known syndrome.

[S_C]

All the previous answers are correct.

i will add though that geting involved in this yourself will only confuse the issue and by doing so will only go to make it worse.

In matters of the heart it safer to just be someone who listens but does not get involved, as it can and does make a situation worse as more and more people get involved.

[andy-hughes]

It's never that simple - as your friend is finding out.

There is only one place where relationships knit up neatly at the end, and everyone moves on right away, and that's a soap opera.

Here is real life, things are never that simple, and 'endings' can drag on for ages.

Your friend's ex may be having second thoughts, or just be jealous and angry - what ever, it is for them to sort out.

if you are looking for a straight reason why she is behaving like this - don't bother, it is either one of several millions reasons, or there is no reason at all, in either case it's unlikely she could tell you - but of course, you are not going to ask are you.

[Snafu03]

maybe nows the time for him to suggest a 3some?

[4getmenot]

I did that, split up with a bloke and then still stayed at his at weekends, I had fallen for someone else and didnt think it was right I stay with him but it was hard after 2 and a half years together and stopping my normal routine and our friendship was even more difficult, I look back now knowing how horrible that was for me to do that, but in the end he met someone new and asked me to get back with him or he would go out with the other so I let him go.