Unbiased thoughts needed

[sherrardk]

I have had some trouble lately - http://www.theanswerb.../Question1008474.html

There has only been two further incidents (all quite low key and spaced far apart so haven't felt that it warranted going to the police) but now they seem to have started on my friend.

I wasn't walking with her on Monday but one of the cronies (there was another man and his girlfriend with him) stopped in his van as she was turning into our estate and just sat watching her. I have become used to this sort of infantile behavior but don't feel it's fair on her that they are now harassing her (especially as she isn't the sort to make a fuss). I am of a mind just to walk up to him next time and say that if he keeps it up I am going to the police - what would you do? (As I have already mentioned, it is all low-level stuff but it can make you feel really jumpy.)

[pa___ul3]

had a little read and all I can think of doing is, as someone suggested, to blatantly take photos of them and note down the time and date in a little note book, even if you don't do anything with it, it'll get them wondering whether they should be doing what they're doing. It may well build up to what may be considered harassment but that would probably need someone with a broader legal knowledge to advise.
The main thing is to not show that it's bothering you! Best of luck!

[tamborine]

Put these up front & back of house, to collect evidence.

http://www.google.co....wAA&biw=1045&bih=497#

[sherrardk]

Thanks for your answer/thoughts. My husband wants me to go to the police but I can't help thinking that to someone else it all sounds very trivial and pathetic. Also, I am really fed up that they are having a pop at my friend.

[Buenchico]

What are you doing on Friday afternoon, Sherrardk?
http://www.westmercia...ord-rural-north?tab=4

[sherrardk]

Thanks Chris - might be worth popping by and having a chat (as long as it's quiet - don't want people gossiping). Actually, could have had a word last Thursday evening (and the one before) when the police were round here complaining about our parking (people next-door-but-one are associated with the idiots doing this so I think it was them that 'complained').

[tamborine]

Make phone video evidence to show police. Dont speak to the moron let the cops visit him.

[Slapshot]

Why should you be made to feel uncomfortable, go to the police, simple

[stokemaveric]

this is pure harrasment..stop pussyfooting around and go to the police before they take steps further..sorry for being so blunt sherrardk..but these morons will keep on making life uncomfortable for you...

[anneasquith]

sher. discuss these incidents with OH as he knows these people,

[sherrardk]

Hi all - know thats what I should do but I am concerned about looking like a complete tit over what sounds quite trivial (also have an irrational nervousness around the police) I am a grown up and should be able to stand up for myself but now they have started hassling my friend I am worried about them being 'off' with my eldest son when he is out and about. I will go round to community police thing on Friday (thanks again for the link Chris).

[DTCwordfan]

Look how would you feel if something happens and you havent reported it.

No go to the police with what you have or what you can quickly assemble as per some of the suggestions of others here - the notebook is a good idea and may I suggest using a pencil......they look to see if there are any erasures etc to see if things have been changed so with no such marks, they know its more likely to be a factual account.

[sherrardk]

Sorry Anne - missed you there. OH said to go to the police too.

[sherrardk]

Sorry - missed you too DT. Will get on it first thing - have a notepad and a sharpened pencil ready to go.

[ClareA]

sherrardk, I agree with all who've posted. Approach the police calmly - they'll take you seriously, especially when you tell them you're keeping a log of incidents already (because they'd ask you to). It doesn't do any harm for these harassers to see you out logging what they're up to. I'd stop short of confrontation, as such a thing can escalate and be made out as though you were the aggressor. (Imagine it - them saying 'I was doing nuffink, officer, and the mad woman just walked up to me...'). You don't want that.
The police might keep a low-key, driving by watch at times you suggest there's a problem. Ask them about that. It may be enough to put your tormentors off.