the terrible 2,s , baby daughter playing up

[goldenbolls]

there is a book out there about how to control and teach your children, anyone know the name of it. she wont go into her own bed, she tests us at every hour by doing something like spitting or using bad language or telling us to go away or shut up, i try my best to introduce disipline but her mother doesnt follow through with me on most things, im potty training her now which is going well and at every chance shes good i will praise her for it but she is putting an even bigger strain on our marriage which is allready at breaking point. ive got her into a childminders on mon/wed /fri so she can interact with other kids and paint and play, childminders isnt registered but has costumes and big play area for the kids also she has good rATE

[woofgang]

Could she be picking up on the stress between you and her mum? If it was my littlie i wouldn't be using an unregistered minder no matter how good the rate.

[cassa333]

Are you her grandparent?

Although the terrible two's are named for a reason I think she is learning bad ways somewhere along the lines otherwise she wouldn't be swearing!

If she isn't being properly disiplined elsewhere then all you can do is do it right at your house. I know 'a few' children who are little monsters elsewhere but when they come to me they aren't too bad because they KNOW what I will and won't put up with. They try to push but get short shrift with me.


Do it right at your house and follow through.

Try the books by Jo Frost, Suppernanny.

[redcrx]

try the naughty step. She is obviously picking up on fact that she can push her boundaries with you whilst you and your wife are struggling.

[ladybirder]

cassa I read it as the OP is the father. No?

[johnk]

Don't give up. This is the time when you set your stall out, give way now and it will be difficult forever

[tigwig]

Do you realise it is illegal for someone to childmind other people's children if they arent registered? She wont have insurance and wont have been vetted or anything. She may be cheap but thats why!
In regards to your daughter's behaviour I am getting the jist from your other posts that life at home is very difficult at the moment and of course she will be reacting to this and the only way she can let you know how it effects her is to behave badly.

[woofgang]

OP is the dad, he has posted here before about rocky marriage circs.

[Mamyalynne]

I think this may be the book you refer to.

http://www.amazon.co....113345/ref=pd_sim_b_4

[goldenbolls]

YES I AM THE DAD, mum is very lax (without putting her down too much) whereas i would be tougher on her, ive tried the naughty step and will continue with it, she wont sleep in her own bed, when i put her in her own bed her mum gives in and takes her into ours. childminder is registered through local childminding organisation i checked today though iu checked with early years - social services and they have no records of her (childminder ) recieving house visits from them , strange. anyway im going to get that book and hopefully learn something from it. thanks

[tigwig]

It's Ofsted who she should be registered with. Anyway good luck with the book although unless everyone follows it it wont work as well.