word of warning, my partner and i are together 5 yrs, he is 40. i was in the same situation last year, we split up for 1 week and then he said he didnt want to loose me and we could have a baby. A year later we talked about trying and it happened really quickly. When I told him i was pregnant he was shocked and then terrified. He began citing all the reasons why it was not the right time, from him wanting to go abroad, who would walk the dog! less money if i was off work (he earns loads!) possible health reasons, he couldnt cope and i would end up alone with a disabled child! He rounded it off with the final message that he couldnt cope. He is out of the country for the next 3 weeks and i am 5 weeks pregnant. I feel he ruined what should have been the happiest time of my life. He is normally a kind, fun generous thoughtful person and i dont think he is deliberately being mean but i am sooo disappointed in him i dont think i can think of him in the same way ever again.