Do I tell my daughter-in-law that my son has been cheating on her?

[Nancy-Jane]

This is honestly one of the worst times of my life right now, I can't put into words how disappointed I am in my son. He and his lovely wife (and when I say lovely, the girl really is so sweet) have been married for over a year and half and she is 25 weeks pregnant with identical twin girls. But I discovered recently that my son has been seeing another woman behind his wife's back, a woman who he met when he was working in another country and that he has been seeing her since July 2009 which was five months before he married his wife. I couldn't believe it when I found out, I instantly confronted him about it and he admitted it was true and that he was sorry (which is no use now). He said he was going to stop seeing the other woman and that his wife need never find out. Of course I found this utterly ridiculous and I am now in turmoil over what to do, do I tell this woman who is so in love with my son that he has betrayed her in the ultimate way? Please help.

[LoftyLottie]

It is really not a parent's place to interfere in their offsprings marriage, unless of course there is any violence taking place. Unfortunately, we have to stand back. They are grown up people.

I would never tell anybody their spouse was cheating on them anyway.

[shaneystar2]

I've made it a rule never to interfere in my offsprings grown up lives .
i've seen what can happen when parents interfere .My Mum mixed it with one of my brothers and it caused a huge rift in the family .
Leave them to sort out thier own affairs .
Otherwise you may get dragged into messy situation .
It's hard but sometimes you just have to sit back and let them get on with it .

[LoftyLottie]

Absolutely agree Shaney.

If they confide in you and ask advice then give it, much as you would for a friend, but don't take it upon yourself to interfere. It causes no end of problems for all concerned.

[LoftyLottie]

To be honest Lankeela has put it bluntly but truthfully - it really is non of your business.

It is hard for you and I sympathise, but leave well alone. You have told your son what you think now stand back.

[roxie_09]

He's been seeing this other one for over 2 years, me thinks he's
Not going to change. Obviously doesn't care for the fact he's married and has 2 children on the way. If it was me I'd want to know, no matter how painful it is at the time x

[evedawn]

No stay out of it totally! Warn ur son that if u ever find out he is still in contact with the other woman that u may tell to DIL then. That threat may be sufficient! It is not ur place to tell her...and you willnot be thanked trust me!!!Of course the other woman may well tell her :( how sad!!