Baby due in 4 weeks - eek!! Excited

[lylabellablueyes]

Hope everyone is well. My baby is due in 4 weeks and I'm starting to get anxious and excited :-)

Any tips on how to stop my 2 year old feeling left out. It breaks my heart to think she would feel this way.

I know this is probably better suited in family, but hey ho, it's Saturday night and I fancy a 'chat' in 'chatterbank' ;-)

[boxtops]

It helps if she can think that it's "her baby" too, and to share in helping. You might find that she regresses a bit for a few weeks, if she thinks that the baby gets attention for doing baby things - it will pass! Is she helping you to get ready for the new arrival!

[carolegif]

My son and daughter in law had Ellie Rose on Friday. They also have Daisy who is 2 years old. M & S do a lovely card - a certificate for a big sister"! Next have also got t Shirts for big and little sisters. I will be seeing them next week and make a big thing about Daisy being a big sister and how she can show her little sister (when she is older) all the naughty things she gets up to!

[lylabellablueyes]

I was planning on doing that, as I hope it'd make her feel special :-)

My daughter is 2.6 going on 16. Soo independent. But that'll be a good thing once the baby's here I suppose. Thanks

[erin-x]

My friend just told me about his nieces reaction to her new sister. When asked if she liked her, she replied "Nah, buh bye!" haha.. sorry this doesn't help :| it's funny though.

My real advice is the same as Doc's.. Keep her involved, she's a big girl now.. x

[sherrardk]

I found that the older ones didn't mind too much provided that the majority of their routine didn't alter too much - try to make the baby fit in with what already happens rather than change everything (well, as much as you can). Good luck, x

[lylabellablueyes]

Thanks everyone. I have let her play with everything. She even sleeps her dolly in the Moses basket lol. She ate tea other day with a pair of scratch kits on too lol. (obviously will be washed)

I'm letting her do what she wants within reason, so that she feels involved. I'll look at the big sister clothes and let her pick one.

[lylabellablueyes]

Mits that should have said :-)

[knowabit]

My eldest was 4 when her little sister was born. She loved being able to help and get involved with things. I did find that whenever I sat down to give little one her bottle, the elder would always be tugging me and wanting me to do something for her right there and then!

[mrsmaveric]

im sure she will love playing ''big sister'' im sure things will be absoloutley fine x

[hc4361]

In my experience it is other people that causes the problem - cooing over baby and ignoring first born.
Encourage her to be first to show baby off to visitors. Let her help with little things such as wiping baby's mouth when he dribbles.
When you have a visitor who you trust, such as Granny or Aunty, let them spend time with baby while you and first born 'steal' time together for special cuddles, a book or playing with her dolly. Just 10 minutes will be enough - it will make all the difference.
Also let Daddy take eldest out on his own, and baby, and you do the same, just for a short while.
Being aware of a potential problem means you'll be prepared. You have nothing to worry about,

[starone]

Whenever I see someone with a new baby and a small child I always speak to the small child first before I look at the new baby. You must let her know that she is important, just as important as the new one. Never leave her out, but you already know that. You are quite obviously a lovely mother.

[DaisyNonna]

My daughter had a present ready from the new baby to his big sister. Have some lovely photos of a proud big sister.

[Ann]

I have a wonderful photo of my niece's little girl watching Mummy change the new babies nappy and she is holding her nose! Classic!