funerals

[Tomas123]

i have wrote out what i would like to happen at my funeral if i die. but i don't know where to keep it as i don't want it getting into the wrong hands in case they would to think im planning of killing myself. is there a place where it can be kept until you die and when you do die you closest relative get it??

[roslyn251254]

Have you written a will? It could be left with that (at a solicitor's maybe)

[bednobs]

IF you die? lol despite medical advances, the death rate remains stable at 100%.

[rockyracoon]

The Will might not get read right away and the funeral could have already taken place. Why not tell a good friend or someone you trust where you will put this note so s/he can let your family know when necessary.

[I.Don No]

I have put a copy of my wishes with my will, my funeral arranger and also told my children.

[boxtops]

Ours are with our Wills, and we have told our executors where they are (with our solicitors)

[karenmac60]

Leave it with someone you trust. Mr mac did this a few years ago after he'd been very ill. It's in a sealed envelope and I've put it away safely and will only look at it if and when the time comes (although I could get hit by a bus tomorrow and I'd never know what he'd written).

[nungate]

My mum got one of those funeral plans and we planned (and paid) for her funeral - it's all sorted bar the hymns - she said I can choose as she won't be around

[tamborine]

The only way to ensure you have the funeral you desire is to buy it up front & inform your NOKin. Otherwise nowt is guaranteed.

[Buenchico]

Even telling your next of kin is no guarantee of getting the funeral which you'll want. When I was a child my mother frequently told me that she wanted to be cremated (as she hated the idea of 'being eaten by worms'). She repeated that information to me many times in adulthood. However she either never mentioned it to my father or he simply decided that he wanted to be buried with her because he arranged her funeral as a burial (with a joint plot).

The best you can do is to tell as many people as possible or, failing that, put it in your will (where it still won't be binding upon on anyone) AND keep a signed (and dated) card in your wallet saying (for example) "In the event of emergency, please contact xxxxxx at yyyyyyy. In the event of my death I give consent for my organs to be used for medical donation and I desire that my funeral be arranged in accordance with the document stored in in the top drawer of the desk in my living room".

Chris