When my father died.........

[micmak]

I received the news at work. He wasn't ill so it was a total shock, (he was only 66) When I came out of work to go and see my mother, I was amazed that the traffic was still running, people were still shopping and going about their daily business. It made me realise that we were not that special. We were / are to each other, but not to the stranger walking past us in the street. In 100 years time we will only be remembered by searching the census sites. Maybe remembered is not the right word. You have to know someone to remember them.

[welshlibranr]

Andy, sorry, I was wrong here, mik was posting in memory of his father's birthday, his parting was not recent, but mik obviously still finds the loss of his father very hard to cope with!.....Time is not that great a healer!......

[ummmm]

I'm sorry micmak......I really really am xxx

I don't know what to say.....you're still in the bad place. That's not long ago....

My Dad died in 2008.....I'm still not over it. Far from it...

f you ever want to chat....just ask xx

[Andyvon]

OK Welsh - I leapt in with both Size 13s again! Not for the first time either! Sometimes I post then wish I had thought a bit longer before doing so.

I hope today wasn't too bad a day for you Micmak. I remember my mother every birthday, Christmas, Mother's Day etc so I'm sure you do the same with your father and son.

[micmak]

I don't think we will ever get over it ummmm. When i wake in the morning he is my first thought.

[micmak]

Andyvon, you have nothing to be sorry for. Thankyou for your input I appreciate it.

[welshlibranr]

know how you feel mick, my mum passed away in 2000, she was widowed when we were all young, she was our rock, we expected her to live forever!.......miss her still, always will!......find myself saying the things that she used to say every day!.........

[Andyvon]

I'm not very tactful Micmak. Story of my life I'm afraid.

[rowanwitch]

My father died when I was 2 and a half...I envy those who knew theirs even though losing them is a price we pay for loving them

[micmak]

Welsh. Where in Wales are you? My son died in Wales.

[welshlibranr]

South Wales mik, between Swansea and Cardiff, little seaside town called Porthcawl, but am originally from North Wales, where was your son?

[micmak]

Rowan, does this mean better to have loved and lost..........etc. going of topic. how are you and redman doing?

[rowanwitch]

I have rarely regretted knowing people but sad at those I didn'y get to meet..
We are friends... one of those people I don't regret meeting

[micmak]

Welsh, he was in Newport. A deranged person stuck a needle in him at a taxi queue.

[welshlibranr]

Oh no mik!.........Newport is not a nice part of Wales!.........so sad!.....

[karlyau]

Micmak, You have my sympathies. I had a similar situation - I was in Guernsey on business, and to rush back via Jersey, Southampton and then to Cambridge. I barely knew my dad. He only got back in touch shortly before he died. He wasnt special to me when he was alive, but now, years later I miss him, and I wonder what I missed. I cant imagine how you feel.

[Mamyalynne]

Micmak in truth I can think of no greater loss than that of a child and the way your son died is truly horrific ((HUG))

I was 27 when my Dad died age 56 , from being a child we were inseparable - Mum was more for the boys, it was as you say a strange and surreal feeling to see life carry on.

[Bobbisox]

I read this post and felt like crying, mik as the others have said, you aren't alone with these perfectly normal feelings, it is a cliche we all use that life goes on but for the person(s) concerned, it stands still on each waking moment, my Dad also died in Wales, in Anglesey, he had a good life and was in his early 80s, my Mum passed away when I was just 24, I was pregnant at that time so she never held her grandchild in her arms, I miss them today and everyday and always will, take care mm, my thoughts are with you and your wife x