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Divorce.
If your wife decides to leave the marital home through her own accord, what is she entitled to take. If divorce happens, I have evidence of adultary and maritial deception(she is unaware)I will use this should it come to this, she will no doubt contest my unreasonable behaviour in that I put the business first to provide for her and the kids. She has a very good wage and enjoys the lifestyle however, she says she has had enough. I have tried to reason without success.
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Hi Tylers. I don't usually comment on these kinds of threads but one thing caught my eye.
Perhaps your wife does have a valid claim of unreasonable behaviour. I was in business for 12 years and I know that the business will always come before family. I had no children and my first wife worked with me but I know if a valued customer wants your service at night,...
Perhaps your wife does have a valid claim of unreasonable behaviour. I was in business for 12 years and I know that the business will always come before family. I had no children and my first wife worked with me but I know if a valued customer wants your service at night,...
21:33 Wed 05th Oct 2011
I left (nobody else, but I left). The mortgage was joint, both our salaries contributed to the mortgage and the household expenses. I was entitled to half the value of the house, so my then OH bought me ought. The fact she has a good wage would suggest she contributes to household expenses - so she would be entitled to her share.
My advice is (and I don't touch family law with a barge pole) that you see a solicitor. However, don't let the the solicitor rail road you into turning this nastier than it need be.
You are understandably ruffled around the boa with what your wife has done. Forget it. The important thing now is the children. I have the great misfortune (but in a way, the great honour) to be in the middle of a battle between divorced partners and the ones who really suffer are the kids.
I can't say what she can and can't take - much depends on where the kids are. This is what the court will look at first and foremost. I would honestly get some legal advice from a family law specialist. Good luck.
You are understandably ruffled around the boa with what your wife has done. Forget it. The important thing now is the children. I have the great misfortune (but in a way, the great honour) to be in the middle of a battle between divorced partners and the ones who really suffer are the kids.
I can't say what she can and can't take - much depends on where the kids are. This is what the court will look at first and foremost. I would honestly get some legal advice from a family law specialist. Good luck.
I agree with Boxtops and Barmaid (for what my penny's worth on this).
I'm sure that your wife contributed to the running of the household and the care of the children Tylers. In that case your wife will rightly claim that she helped you and your business by doing just that. She also brought an income to the home so I think she may well be entitled to half of everything.
You are right too Barmaid - the children are most important. My father was in the airlines so he was usually away from home flying. My mother always felt alone and my parents' marriage broke up when I was 14. They divorced when I was 15. It all affected me very deeply. When I was 14 I effectively shut down mentally and I never really went back to school. I spent all my time by myself and couldn't be near people. That shaped my life right up until today. My younger brother came through it fine though and he's a senior manager with a US computer firm.
I'm sure your children won't be as badly affected Tylers but you must make sure their future is your priority. Please recognise that they may well be very affected by their parents' arguments and the marriage breaking up. I'd forgotten it until now but it's all just come back.
I'm sure that your wife contributed to the running of the household and the care of the children Tylers. In that case your wife will rightly claim that she helped you and your business by doing just that. She also brought an income to the home so I think she may well be entitled to half of everything.
You are right too Barmaid - the children are most important. My father was in the airlines so he was usually away from home flying. My mother always felt alone and my parents' marriage broke up when I was 14. They divorced when I was 15. It all affected me very deeply. When I was 14 I effectively shut down mentally and I never really went back to school. I spent all my time by myself and couldn't be near people. That shaped my life right up until today. My younger brother came through it fine though and he's a senior manager with a US computer firm.
I'm sure your children won't be as badly affected Tylers but you must make sure their future is your priority. Please recognise that they may well be very affected by their parents' arguments and the marriage breaking up. I'd forgotten it until now but it's all just come back.
Andy, I really am sorry for raking this up and I am grateful for you input. My children are always my priority and like anyone would do anything for them. I have attempted to protect them from the raised voices, easier as they are only home at weekends (school). Weekend arguments mean I am on the receiving end without verbal retaliation in an attempt to keep the peace.... for the kids sake.
Kristal, Thanks for your understanding! As I pointed out, I considered it however, would not do it. Also let me point out, I may be a creep in your opinion but I am not the *** who is doing the dirty, I am not the *** who is lying, I am not the *** who is lying to her children. I am the creep who has conceded that I have put my job first for too long so that she/my family got the benefits.....
Hi tylers,
I answered your same question last week. I think as she has a good salary that she can argue she contributed financially to the household and upbringing of the family. By doing that she will also be deemed to have contributed to your business by taking various domestic and family duties and responsibilities from you so that you could successfully operate and develop the business. Because you spent so much time concentrating on the business and not on home or family your wife eventually felt sufficiently lonely that she felt the need to look outside the home for company.
That's not your fault Tylers. I was in business for many years and there's a saying that business and family don't mix. Luckily I never had children but my busines helped destroy my first marriage (we worked together). I got to know many other business owners and many said they had never had a holiday or seen their children growing up. The business takes people away from birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, holidays family events, etc.
As I said last week, I think your wife is entitled to half of everything, including the business. Although she found someone else she will counter with the point that she contributed for X-number of years to the upkeep of the house and family enabling you to operate the business. The fact she then felt sufficiently abandoned to find someone else would be mitigated by that.
I hope everthing works out for you. The children in the middle are the most important thing. I still remember my mother asking me whether I wanted to live with her or with my father. I was so torn for an answer that I eventually just burst into tears and said I wanted to live with them both. I hope you don't have to ask your children the same question.
Good luck Tyler.
I answered your same question last week. I think as she has a good salary that she can argue she contributed financially to the household and upbringing of the family. By doing that she will also be deemed to have contributed to your business by taking various domestic and family duties and responsibilities from you so that you could successfully operate and develop the business. Because you spent so much time concentrating on the business and not on home or family your wife eventually felt sufficiently lonely that she felt the need to look outside the home for company.
That's not your fault Tylers. I was in business for many years and there's a saying that business and family don't mix. Luckily I never had children but my busines helped destroy my first marriage (we worked together). I got to know many other business owners and many said they had never had a holiday or seen their children growing up. The business takes people away from birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, holidays family events, etc.
As I said last week, I think your wife is entitled to half of everything, including the business. Although she found someone else she will counter with the point that she contributed for X-number of years to the upkeep of the house and family enabling you to operate the business. The fact she then felt sufficiently abandoned to find someone else would be mitigated by that.
I hope everthing works out for you. The children in the middle are the most important thing. I still remember my mother asking me whether I wanted to live with her or with my father. I was so torn for an answer that I eventually just burst into tears and said I wanted to live with them both. I hope you don't have to ask your children the same question.
Good luck Tyler.
