so called bestfriend!!

[hazel999]

Sorry I need to vent!!
I have posted on here before about my friend excluding me from everything and keeping me seperate from her friends, yet wanting to be invited and friends with my few close friends and arranging meeting up with them behind my back.
Well here is the latest which has really upset me. Its her 30th today. I asked her yesterday if she had any arrangements and she said no but seemed shifty about me coming over to drop her present off and said she was busy with family and couldnt say a time which would be convienient and to leave it until Thursday. What she didnt know was on Monday I saw her messaging a friend on fb (I wasnt snooping it came up in the side) about everyone meeting up tonight, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and thought maybe she might still invite me, until last night when she still hadnt mentioned it.
I decided to message her as I thought this is what she would do if I had done this to her. Now she is saying its a surprise that her friends have organised, yet havent invited her ''BESTFRIEND''....yet she seems to be in on the ''surprise'' and has been for at least the last 4days....what are your opinions on this, do you also think im being taken for a fool??

[boxtops]

She's not your friend, you are kidding yourself. Keep the present. Join some clubs - make yourself your own circle of friends. Knowing someone for 13 years doesn't make them a friend - she obviously doesn't want you around, she's just using you. Move on.

[China Doll]

I think this may actually be a case of you seeing more in her than she does in you... whcih doesn't mean she isn't your friend but it does mean that the friendship is at the very least unequal. You either have to widen your own social network and see this friend on your terms or decidie if ultimately being her friend makes you feel bad in which case, there's no point in continuing the friendship as you'll get no joy from it.

[bagpuss63]

maybe I should keep quiet-but from what you've said, I think you will find it hard to get rid of her -was in similar position once-she's not a friend, but likes the idea you 'need' her, if you back off she'll be glued to you for few days when she realises, but then nasty again.Block her on fb-then she'll know-WHEN she turns nasty (and she will) haven't you got one other friend/family that you can rant at on the phone? it will do you good

[DaisyNonna]

Difficult, but better no friend than a non-friend.

[puddle-duck]

I was in a similar situation years ago. it hurts & knocks your confidence, but as others have said true friends don't act like that. Break away from them & find friends that value what you have to offer.

When I first read this I thought you were talking about teenagers, very surprised to read she's 30.

[starone]

Time you faced facts and got rid of her. It would be better for you to get a circle of friends and not just one 'best' friend

[moiflan]

Have you heard of the word "frenemy" an enemy masquerading as a friend,they are spooky.........she sounds insecure.Friends are supposed to make you feel better about yourself ,not question your worth!As your kids grow you'll make new friends from school/classes.I've had similar situations,it's very upsetting.