update

[4getmenot]

for those of you that wrote kind words before. My partners mum passed away lastnight. He's not so bad now, as knew it wouldnt be long. Its just a shame for a 46yr old.

[NoMercy]

Is your mother the one pressing for the reunion, Jan? X x

[Jan1957]

My mum wouldn't know I was there No Mercy. She is in a home for Alzheimer's patients and no longer knows who any one is but she was diagnosed with breast cancer a couple of months ago and they have decided not to treat her because of the Alzheimers.

[redcrx]

oh jan, sorry to hear you are faced with such a decision. :(

[NoMercy]

That's a tough one, Jan. X

[4getmenot]

jan when they got to the hospital and didnt really know what to say and saw how ill she was they were wishing they hadnt gone, but when they got home they said they were glad they did it. There are no what ifs now x

[B00]

sorry to hear that 4Get.

xxxx

[ChuckFickens]

I didn't see the previous thread(s) this is about, but sorry for the loss, it will be hard for him regardless of how much he knew it was coming.

XX

[Jan1957]

Thank you for replying 4get. I guess it will be down to me to decide too. x

[4getmenot]

yes Jan. I hope you make the right decision xx

[sherrardk]

I haven't spoken to my biological father since I was 19 and last saw him when I was 24 (at my sister's wedding, where I steadfastly refused to speak to him or have any eye contact). I am under the impression that he is very ill (he might actually be dead by now) and if I got a phone call tomorrow asking me to go and see him I wouldn't go. I am perfectly happy with my decision but its each to his own.

[mrs.chappie]

So sorry to hear this sad news.

[marval]

Sad news 4get, I wish him well.

[askyourgran]

Sorry to hear that 4get, at least he went to see her. No regrets. x

It's really tough Jan, try to see your Mum. She may not know, but you have the satisfaction of knowing you were there holding her hand and spending some time, even half an hour with her during those last months/years however long she has. I wish I could talk to my mum now.

[starone]

Life is so difficult 4get. I know you will get through this together. I cannot understand a woman leaving her children but at least your partner should know that he has done the right thing.

[anneasquith]

i feel so sorry for your partner 4get, but im sure you will support him all you can.