Time between dying and funeral

[purpose]

A relative of mine passed away this evening and i was wondering if anyone knew when the likely time (day) for the funeral (C of E i think) would be.

I have never been to a funeral so know nothing about the 'normal' expectations.

Can anyone help?!

[Gill 05]

Sorry to hear that purpose. A loved one of mine passed away last Saturday and the funeral was on Thursday.

Its usually 3 - 4 days depending on circumstances.

The funeral directors usually tell the relatives when the day will be.

[thikasabrik]

The length of time it takes depends on several things. Your local council is responsible for crematoriums and cemeteries so if it is a cremation or burial in a local cemetery it will depend on when they have a free time slot. If it is a burial in a churchyard then it will depend on when the vicar and gravedigger are free. The funeral director organises everything. You don't say if the death of your relative was expected or not and if they had seen a doctor in the last seven days. If there is to be a post mortem this can hold up the proceedings by several days. If everything is straightforward I would say most funerals take place within 5 - 7 days.

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss.

[maggie01]

I would thing it would probably be early next week if there is nothing to hold it up . My condolences. It is always sad when somes passes away.

[maggie01]

sorry that should have read "think

[rampart]

Hello, purpose,

Sorry to hear of your loss. Here is just some general information based on what I know:

Most memorial services or requiems happen anytime from 10 o'clock until about 2 o'clock, but of course this will be contingent on many things. Most services last about an hour, and will include a couple of readings from the Bible, a psalm, and might include some music.

Often there is a sermon rather than a eulogy, where the deceased is mentioned, but the context is Christian life and burial rather than a particular focus on the specifics of the deceased.

You might find the service a bit formal, but if you open up to it, I believe you will find their words helpful at a time like this.

Some churches have a verger who will be around to help visitors. You might telephone the church and ask if one will be at the service. I find vergers are very helpful when I am at an unfamiliar church. They can help you find a phone, the loo, tell you where to sit, when to go for communion (if any), etc.

Here is a helpful link:

http://www.ely.anglican.org/ministry/leaflets/funerals.html

[xelisex]

Sorry to hear about your loss...

Im 16 years of age and my mum passed away in september 2005.

She died on the friday and had the funeral the following friday.

It all depends what you want done with the relative...if he/she is being cremated or burried. Also how he/she died can affect it too.

Hoped this helped and sorry to hear about your loss xx

[purpose]

Thankyou all so much.

I'm still in shock so thinking normally at the moment is impossible - hence the need for info.

The person in question is my grandmother. She was 93 and had been diagnosed with cancer 4 years ago and wasn't expected to live longer 4 months!

Although she had nurses and palliative carers attend her twice a day (she has been living in my parents' house for 10 years - and died there) she had not seen a doctor for 3 weeks, so i guess that there will be a post mortem?

Thanks all :0)

[rampart]

I am not sure about the post mortem, and confess I have no knowledge. But I suspect the doctor would perform one if he was not sure of the cause of death. In your grandmother's case, it sounds fairly straightforward, so I would not think so.