Question Author
oh yes i am stereotyping to get my point across on here, to be clear... i guess thats why things become stereotypes - because they are often true or at least stem from truth
i actually thought he was one of those gay men who actually somewhat put on the campness...who revel in it...hence why i had no idea he thought he wasnt
i know many many gay people - mostly from theatre backgrounds and the local scene, and i know many different 'types' and he is indeed a stereotypical one - imagine lily savages voice on helium.
i agree there are exceptions - people like david walliams who is straight but 'acts gay', and some men who are just not 'butch', so there is a 'wonder' about them, but this guy is so over the line of doubt it really did stun me.
i agree jno we all are different to others than we think.