Gossiping busy body

[sherrardk]

A busy body in the village has been gossiping about me at a local playgroup. She is an older lady (she makes the tea for the group) and is on every committee going, thinks she knows everyone's business, etc. I am really cross at what she has said (and who knows who else she has been gossiping to?). Would you let it go or would you confront her next time you saw her?

[cazzz1975]

these days I would probably happily rip her throat out however that will fuel more unsavoury gossip, I would ignore her, you should also clarify that many children are not lucky enough to get a place in a special school and as your childs needs can be met in mainstream you are effectively gifting your place to a much needier child.

[sherrardk]

Hi cazzz, that's how I feel about.

FGT, Of course you are entitled to an opion but I explained this on Wednesday http://www.theanswerb.../Question1130443.html

Maybe if you hade been here longer than two and a half weeks you would know more about other members 'backgrounds'.

[woofgang]

Cazzzz how can you ignore her AND clarify?

[joko]

i would write her note...polite but stating firmly that she is out of order

that way it wont turn into a row and end up as more gossip (of how you threatened her and screamed in her face like a banshee etc etc)

[cazzz1975]

you ignore the fish wife behaviour, you explain to others (if questioned ) your reasoning. you also make the gossiper look bad.

[tinkerbell23]

Yeah you are.

Possibly not on a thread where sherr is distressed about her child.

Thats my opinion.

X

[friedgreentomato]

6 weeks darling 6!!

Sorry for not reading everyone of your exciting threads!

[sherrardk]

FGT, my mistake, but still not very long. And I am not your darling.

[chi-chi66]

A while ago when still working, I worked in learning disability, in the community. Again, someone passed on to me in good nature, a story that
was being put around about something that I had done without consent of
managers. Totally untrue.

So when we went on a course, the woman who's daughter was putting the story round was on the course. I waited until the course finished (3hrs)
went out into the corridor and waited for her, pulled her aside, and told her the facts, and said that if I ever hear another word about it from her orher daughter, I would take it further.

Lo and behold, a while later I was moved to a different property, where this
woman was based. She had apparently told everyone that I'd had a go at her.
So....I faced her again, and repeated to her what I had said before, in front of
other members of staff this time. I never heard another word, and we did
end up becoming quite friendly.

Sorry I've waffled, but I'm trying to say face her with it. I don't mean for
you to become friends though!! Good Luck! x

[woofgang]

Good point, if you are going to face her, do it in public so she can't be creative when she tells folk what you said.

[brenda]

sherrardk-- How distressing for you this must be. Would advise that you see her and put her straight , then let others know that you have done this.My goodness I must be getting old, my normal reaction would be to punch her in the face. I live in a village as well so I know how spiteful some people can be.However as they say " softly softly catchee monkey", or words to that effect.Please let us know if you wish the outcome.All the best Brenda.

[naomi24]

It's nothing to do with her - and I'd tell her so - quietly but firmly.

[sherrardk]

I have calmed down now and my blood is no longer boiling. I stopped going to this particular playgroup this week as thing 1 and 2 now go to nursery on Monday afternoon. However, I shall go down a week on Monday and speak to this lady in full view of the other mothers, I will not be rude, I will not raise my voice or be abusive. I will just tell her the facts (and I will NOT cry when defending my boy and our decisions about his education yet again).

[naomi24]

You have no reason to defend your boy. It's none of her business. You don't owe her or anyone else an explanation. (Grrr ... I think my blood's beginning to boil on your behalf).

[tinkerbell23]

Me too naomi xx