I do not want to upset anyone with my post, but

[micmak]

If your cat/dog is unwell you take it to the vet.
If you're unwell you go to see the doc.
In both case you will have tests to find the problem.
The vet will say The cat/dog has incurable cancer " The animal is in pain he/she would be best put to sleep". As hard as it is we agree and go home and cry bucket loads.
My Father died from pancreas cancer. He really suffered great pain to die. Twice a day he was given morphine. It was not enough. When he died he was all skin and bone. Had he been a dog no such suffering would have occurred
Just a thought..

[Mamyalynne]

It was only the last two days Tambo and yes the decision was mine.

[paddywak]

Sorry about the double post This is what I meant to post , I
hope.

[paddywak]

please accept my apologies this shouldn't have been on this thread

[Psybbo]

Sorry about that, ~paddy is tired and just saw mamya's post, he meant to put it in the night night thread

[Mamyalynne]

Hi Ena, yes been in that situation too, with my Mother in Law, Docotor gave me 3 tabs and said to give her one to get her through the night, two if she was still restless or the three if.... he squeezed my hand and left. I was 22 and did not have a clue ...I do now.

[micmak]

Mam I wish i had been given that option. but.......In the end no matter how ill they are it is construed as the M word

[Mamyalynne]

It is such a dilemma and no clear cut answer.

[daffy654]

I intend to have my own death eased with morphine. Dying of lung disease is painful and distressing, I would rather go in a drugged haze than fully aware and gasping for every breath whilst suffering horrific pain.

[ladyalex]

It is a dilemma.
I was very glad that the Docs taking care of both my oarents took the decision to give them enough morphine/diamorphine. They did tell the family that the drugs would depress their breathing, but we were all relieved that the pain and anxiety would be under control. We all knew what we were agreeing to, but the point was only raised once for which I am extremely greatful.

[Mojo-Jo-Jo]

I went through hell and high water when I had cancer. I'm still here though and glad for that.
The difference is, we can speak.

[parkie]

When my Mum was seriously ill with bowel cancer in 2000 I was so torn between wanting her to go for her sake, or to stay for mine. I felt selfish wanting her to stay with us as long as possible but the reality is, if someone is in so much pain, no matter how close and dear to you they are, we have to let them make up their own minds and if that involves someone else helping them to pass on, no matter who it is, we have to respect their wishes.

[Mamyalynne]

Mojo, I totally agree, this conversation however difficult needs to be had before the patient is end stage. Well done on beating the beast.

Parkdale, yes that is the other side of the coin, the fear you may make the wrong choice at the wrong time.

[micmak]

Everyones answenrs have given me an insight, In to what I ask myself. Off to bed now, Night night

[Mamyalynne]

Night Micmak - speak soon ♥