should i admit to texting another girl in the beginning?

[Jared1980]

I'm 25 and I've been with my girlfriend 2 years, it was great in the beginning, she was confident, happy. 6 months into the relationship, she was staying at my place a lot and she started checking my phone. She admitted she had a hard time trusting because of her past. To prove I was faithful I gave her all my passwords even my cellphone bill. She questioned every number on my bill and went crazy about a random girl I texted 9 times when we first started going out. We argued and my first reaction was I told her I didn't remember doing it. I'm just sick of the questioning, accusations of cheating every day, I feel like saying to her if you don't trust me then you can't love me? I adore her and would never cheat on her, she's the first girl I have proper feelings for. She just blows up over the smallest thing and she's said if she finds out I was texting another women in the beginning she'll leave me.

[cathfromsaron]

did you want this to happen?

what did you say to the woman?

[postrophe]

Gosh! Do we now call it a "cellphone"? I like the German "handy" :)

[Baldric]

Hello Jared, welcome to Answerbank.

And remember 'honesty is the best policy'

[baza]

take you phone back, change your passwords and wish her a fond farewell, then lock the door behind her.

[cupid04]

Poor girl, someone has hurt her very much and your advice is show her the door?

[beso]

She is a control freak. Her obsession will just grow over time and your life will be miserable. Don't waste your time. Move on.

[RATTER15]

My ex wife was like that, i tried to shut it out and put up with it for years, in the end I could take it no longer and left, she would go ballistic at the smallest of things and even get physically violent and attacked me with a knife and a carving fork. My advice is get out while the going is good, these problems dont tend to go away they will probably just get worse.

[Smowball]

Difficult one. I am a pretty insecure person, but I havr to say I have never checked my husbands phone, nor woul I dream of asking for his passwords. The bottom line is, if you're going to cheat then you are going to cheat. Nothing she can do will alter you so she either trusts you or she doesnt. Dont see how you can continue long term like this.

[Rana_Mosaad]

hey there. 1st u need to let her know that she's the only woman in ur life and how much u care about her.. tell her that u r not that kinda guy who cheats on the one he loves and that if u care about some1 else what will force u to saty with here.. girls love to hear that they are the only one in their man's life and that he only cares about her and no one else. relationship must be build on trust and u should never ever lie to her and she must trust u in return. tell her that if u have anything to hide u would of not given her all ur passwords

[beso]

If you follow rana's advice you are digging yourself a hole. This woman is a loser and you should lose her ASAP.