Public displays of affection on Facebook etc

[Kiki-frog]

Just looked at Facebook and two friends (a couple who live together) were posting about how they are looking forward to their holiday, how they love each other, etc, etc. Then another friend posted, reminding them that they'd be going home to each other later today and to keep the slushy stuff until then rather than making it public. They were both a bit offended to say the least.

I must admit, it made me want to barf, but am I just being a grumpy old bat? Does anyone else find this sort of thing nauseating on a public forum? Answers from AB couples especially welcome - do you ever find yourselves doing this?

[Mick-Talbot]

It was on Her wall yesterday.

[Rubyrose]

I heard months ago that they'd split because I was sad for her as I remembered what she'd said about marriage, or the lack of it... but I've just googled it and I can't see anything about it so maybe they patched things up. They've been together since 1983... Thats the year before I was born! Not bad going.

[anneasquith]

i know a couple, ( now split up ) who posted their flirty comments and innuendos on facebook, and they were sitting on the same couch !!!!!!!!!!!!!

[craft1948]

The daughter and her boyfriend are both on FB, and seem to just take the mickey out of each other............much more interesting to read the insults.

[MarkRae]

I'm sure a lot of it is a combination of exhibitionism and insecurity.

What I just can't understand, though, is the need for people to live their lives in public, nor the arrogance that imagines anyone could in the remotest bit interested in the fact that they're in an "odd mood"...

[Mick-Talbot]

Ooooooooh ..... Omg who is in an 'odd mood' ?
Got a link?

[anneasquith]

craft, does your daughter " take after you "? :) :)

[ummmm]

I occasionally post insults on Ginges wall. He has a rake of friends but he only knows about 6...lol. They're all gaming friends.....games that he stopped playing years ago. He won't delete them because they post funny videos...

[chaptazbru]

^^^ Couldn't agree more Mark .......

[EvianBaby]

People share things about their personal lives all the time on here. What's the difference?

[commoner]

That may or may not be true Evianbaby.... but not under their REAL names..........perhaps that's the difference?

[joko]

i havent missed the point.
i answered it.
i dont find it nauseating simply for the reasons i gave - that its none of my business so i simply ignore it ... i dont read or look at posts like that, and if i do accidentally i just ignore it and move on.

everyone is certainly entitled to an opinion, but merely seeing something you dont like does not entitle people to have a reaction like the one you noted in your OP

[Kiki-frog]

joko - that's a tricky one. My reaction, and indeed that of my other friend, was a purely emotional one. Presumably you're not saying that it's wrong to experience emotions?

Or are you saying that to pass comment is wrong? But then doesn't that beg the question of why should anyone conduct their love life in full view of friends and not expect comment, whether negative or positive?

And it may well be that if you see something like that, you do metaphorically avert your gaze and think 'it's none of my business'. If so, fair enough; it just seems like an unusual response, which is why I suggested that you might have misunderstood my original question. That's all. Not a problem.

[hc4361]

Joko, if posts appear on my wall I assume they are meant to be read by me.

There is no need at all for these very personal thoughts to made public.

[Arksided]

Although I love seeing pics of my niece (not met her yet, 5 Weeks) some of the drivel her parents post to each other on FB sends me to sheer boredom and despair... why can't they simply phone each other if the need is so great.

[commoner]

A free society is a society where people have the right to exercise unlimited freedom in their own lives, freedom to live in whatever manner they choose, freedom to pursue their own goals.........BUT, and here's the rub,.... so long as they don't interfere with the rights of others to do the same!

.....in other words a free society doesn't mean you can just please yourself what you do regardless of other people's views and ideals.....it's a compromise at best..

Governments make the rules and we in society should do our very best to make it all nice a fair for everybody and not go around pleasing ourselves and saying Bo11s to you jack!

[joko]

kiki, of course you are entitled to have emotions - just as much as these people are entitled to display their own emotions, on their own FB page.

You are entitled to say whatever you like to them about it - just as they are entitled to say whatever they like in response to you in an offended and angry manner.... or just ignore you.

you are entitled to feel anyway you like - just dont expect others to change to suit you... because they wont.

hc ... but they do not appear on YOUR wall you see...they appear on the posters, wall which you have access to.

if they posted stuff onto your actual page, then you can tell them not to.

you can also see things on the newsfeed - but it is not YOUR newsfeed so you have no right to tell anyone off for posting things you dont like.

you can block peoples feed if you dont like it - they would not know.

[joko]

kiki - why do you say its an unusual response to simply mind my own business?

i find it usual that you think you have a say in other peoples lives.

[Jenarry]

I can't say I mind this too much as it's nice they are happy together.
What has really bothered me recently is a friend who is in a relationship with children, flirting and carrying on like she is single particularly with one guy...(not her bloke sadly) and there are these type of slushy posts on FB everyday between the two of them. I have blocked her now as i couldn't read them anymore.
Also exes arguing very publicly on FB is not nice at all and just seem to be trying to score points against each other in front of everyone!!!