the death of my childs mother

[seanshow85]

my girlfriend and had a daughter august 08 2007, last week my girlfriend was killed in an automobile accident. I left the state like we had planned with our daughter now her parents are trying to get custody or visitation. Is it possible for them to do so? Also my girlfriends parents both have crazy charges like her mom has dui, child neglect, and child endangerment. And her father was a registered child abuser.

[redcrx]

What an awful situation. Have you any support from your own family? Upping and leaving with your daughter so soon after the death of your partner.

And on your childs first birthday too.

This is a UK site (hence the .co.uk in the addy) so its unlikely people here will be able to assist you. You need to find a solicitor who specialises in Family Law.

[Drisgirl]

My heart goes out to you at this awful time xx.

I can only concur with what redcrx said -even in the USA each state seems to have their own legal sytem -I cant see why they would want to take your child away from you though -its not their place to raise your child.Is it possibly a kneejerk reaction after all they have lost their daughter and maybe are not thinking straight.

I do hope things work out -stay strong and take care xx

[fingernail]

is it a real baby or a silicone model of one that looks real? If it is silicone you could maybe sell it on ebay. If it is real then surely you could have it adopted by a loving familly? Like the simpsons? Google simpsons and find a contact us link. Then tell them your story.

[Nosha123]

Can someone report this 'fingernail' character.. I have never heard anything so heartless. **** Off

[ruby27]

Like the first 2 posters, my sympathy to you in this situation.The advice redcrx gives about seeking legal advice, in this country the child would remain with the parent unless the grandparents could prove why it was detrimental, that would have to be the exception not the norm. Also, the child welfare agencies would also want to support you in caring for your child, so could provide you with support.



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[daisycup]

Nosha123 - what happens if this post is genuine? We shouldn't presume it isn't.

Seanshow85 - like the others. I suggest you seek legal advise. Good luck and sorry for your loss.

[redcrx]

daisy, Nosha is referring to a post that has been pulled, not the original poster.

I do hate it when Answerbank remove a post and leave one that relates to it, it causes such confusion

[daisycup]

Oh I see, thanks redcrx. Sorry Nosha123.... i take it back.

[tufty7]

Seanshow85, I reckon you should do what your heart and mind are telling you to do, there is no reason that they should not have visitation rights , It is far better for you to come to an arrangement with them direct and stay with your daughter when they see her , when solicitors get involved it gets messy ! they don't have your best interests at heart , they just want your money!! Don't forget they too have lost there daughter and probably feel the baby is an attachment of her , after learning what background they have it may tail off anyway after a while , perhaps they are not the people to help you through this difficult time, you need help , I hope it all turns out for you and your daughter ..best of luck!

[redcrx]

sean,

any updates? Im not sure what rights you have as the father when you are not married to the mother in the USA.

[seanshow85]

i was dealing with my lawers all day and with child protection services. Good news, the grandparents dont have any rights they would have to prove me to be a unfit parent. They cant do anything because i have a job,car,and my own apartment. This guy read my story in the paper and he is my nw lawer and hes free. i dont have any family to fall back on because i grew up in foster homes and thats been hard on me. but i have court in a week and i was assured i have nothing to worry about.thank you all very much for your posts and i will keep updated. thanks again sean paul

[keiaras_mommy]

wow so u def cheated on me the whole time u were planning on leaving to cali with charlotte when i was still pregnant with ur child..wow see everyone hes a piece of Sugar he neglected his other daughter hes a low life

[keiaras_mommy]

this low life *** is my baby daddy the time he is talkin bout right now is the time 1 was pregnant with his other daughter she was born sept 8th so u see he was cheating on me n was bout 2 leave 2 go 2 cali n not see his other daughter be born because hes notgin but a low life piece of Sugar i moved 2 cali for him too n he cheated on me again n i moved back to fl n he refuses to send mine my daughters Sugar n says he doesnt want to be a part of keiaras life our daughter together so as u can see he only tells ppl he has 1 daughter he never wanted keiara hes nothin but a dead beat dad Fluffin' dirt bag so dont feel sorry for this *** *** feel sorry for his other daughter jaelyn

[keiaras_mommy]

this *** ruined my life i was with him for a year and a half n he never lvoed me..he kept secrets from me the whole time n cheated on me throughout a=our whole relationship he was never there through my pregnancy and could of missed my daughters birth.he left the state leaving me behind.he never cared 4 me has never thought anything of me i supported my daughter since the day she was born.ive been struggling financially.wehn i left cali he threw a party and said he doesnt care what happens 2 me n he doesnt care bout our daughter.our daughters name is keiara khan.he refuses everythin i can never pass down my daughters jewlery like i wanted because he stole it and i ncan never show her her sonograms or anything.he lied to me for a year and a half and asked me to marry him when he never even had feelings for me he used me.my cat is in cali too.he told me he never loved me.n the own mother of his other daughter he doesnt care what happens to me.he doesnt care if i die.n he doesnt care about keiara he cares bout his other kids.

[stacyram1rs]

If you are just bf/gf, and not been married, you don't have the right to keep their grandson. But if you think for the child's custody, you may ask help from a child custodian adviser.

http://duilawyernow.org/